I mean, seriously. I have hobbies and do things on my own like going to the gym everyday, going to coffee shops, libraries, book stores... but, besides the gym, no where I go are any men. And the guys on here have indicated already on several Takes and questions that the gym is not a place to meet a guy. So where are they all at? I don't have a problem approaching one, but it would be nice to have one to actually, you know, APPROACH.
PS, I tried the online dating thing. People just want hook ups and never anything serious, so no, not going back to that.
To many guys ruin online dating buy spam messaging and everyone has too much choice so all go for the same groups. I tried OKcupid wanting something serious I've had 10 visits 6 likes and one match with a girl witch as a guy I think is actually quite good as a girl that would be really low though. I messaged and chatted with her briefly she was very non committal and the conversation wasn't good so it just died. I'm part of a local makers group about 10 regulars and various people who occasionally turn up all men mostly taken but 2 of the regulars me and another guy my age are single groups with a common interest are good for meeting people we all go primarily to talk about what we're working on with each other and share knowledge. I tried spinning to meet women but it's just not nearly as social to be fair I only went 5 or 6 times so far stopped going to that for about a month while I was particularly busy I may go back and I guess I didn't really hang around much after since I was sweaty.
I believe this would be a case of "No, I don't mean *thoooose* ones." There are men everywhere. Not only are there men everywhere, but men are particularly easy to get. Really, if you're halfways attractive, less even, you shouldn't have any problems walking up to any guy you want and saying "Hey, wanna go for a date?" Pretty much 60-75% likelihood they say yes.
Although, if there are no men where you live, could I get a country/state name? Because I might be planning to move to a 100% female part of the world. Mmmmm. Actually, that might be more than I bargain for. Oh well. Someone has to make the sacrifice.
This is an actual problem, dating coaches, dating businesses often talk about it on the internet, there are even books about it. It seems that "dating culture" just doesn't exists any more, men in large part are opting out of it. Something like 70% of men ages 20 to 34 are single and not looking, it's been this way for years now. The amount of men who want to someday marry is the lowest it has ever been and dropping while the reverse is true for women, so there is a lot more women seeking men then men seeking women.
There is also the issue of fewer and fewer men being what most women would consider "marriageable", so there is probably 2 or more times the amount of women seeking eligible men then there are eligible men seeking women.
By the time a man is in his 30's and not married the odds he will drop to like 10% and men who have gone through divorce generally aren't interested ion being in that position again.
Approach anywhere you see a guy you like, even at the gym. If they say they're busy or something, that's fine, but what if he doesn't mind? The more chances you take, the more possibilities of finding a guy you like.
There's guys everywhere, you can even stop one in the streets or at a bus/train stop. Sure, sometimes there'll be guys that are in a hurry and/or don't wanna be bothered, but you never know. Take the risk.
because most guys are ignored and rejected by girls so they realize girls will never love them so they give up and stay home and play video games. and because they know the truth that girls will never want them, they want the girl to approach cause thats how it works, because its the girl and its always been the girl who decides on who they want when they want and it seems all girls want are other girls and to be lesbians, guys just can't win a girls heart anymore.
It's not easy finding women either. It's just the times we live in now I think. People judge and are picky. They seem to automatically think "no" about someone before giving them a chance even. Too quick to dismiss and this goes for both guys and girls. Just my opinion anyway.
There are many places you can get social. Book stores, bowling alleys, outdoor events, etc. Sometimes you even meet by just a casual acquaintance like being on the bus or train, at the movie theater, and yes sometimes the gym. I have heard guys here saying the gym isn't a place to meet guys, and sometimes it is true, but some of my guy friends have met women they were into at the gym, and sometimes it even resulted in just sex.
Apparentlly they are all hanging out with all the single ladies I can't find either. Apparentlly there is a big singles party and you and I were not invited.
I'll be your man. 😉
Online is easiest, there's definite segregation by app. Some are more hookup focused, some are more relationship focused, and at least where I live, the paid sites are better (people who are just attention seeking are less likely to pay money, people who just want to hook up are more likely to use tinder)
I think it's a lot more acceptable for a woman to approach men at the gym then vice versa. There are tons of women only gyms/floors for a reason.
Guys have taken the hint that many women don't like being approached so they don't do it.
Well guys say don't approach at the gym because most women will get very pissed if a guy does that and guys don't want to get banned from the gym.