I'm 18 years old, and I have never been in a relationship. I think it's because I'm afraid of commitment. My dad left before I was born, and all my life I have been questioning, "why would a married man leave his pregnant wife?" Anyway, my mom and other family members told me that he didn't want any kids, so he left. So I think that's the reason why I am afraid of commitment. It's probably every girl's dream to find and marry her true love, but with me, marriage scares me; just the idea of being with one person for more than a few months scares me, and I don't want to be scared anymore. Half of me wants to settle down (when I'm older) and get married, but the other half of me doesn't want what my dad did to my mom and I, happen to me. I don't know what to do?
Every year, all of the seniors get the same question that they have to answer and present to the class -Where do you see yourself 10 years from now? The vast majority of the people in my class answered, "settled down, married (maybe), kids (maybe)" and my answer was, "with a good paying job" I didn't even include anything about marriage, kids, or a family.
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That's not necessarily a bad thing. Your negative experience may make you more guarded and you will find it hard to commit to someone, but at least it makes you acknowledge the fact that relationships don't always work out and nothing is ideal.
If a guy is worth it, I am sure you will find it in your heart to give him a chance even though you're afraid.