I just dated a guy for 2 months. He is really overprotective and always scared that im going to leave him for another guy. He said he was serious with me and won't leave me for another girl as well. He ever told me to promised to him that I won't leave him, so I did told him that I won't. But sometimes he makes me uncomfortable like he often get jealous when I told him about my guy friends, and the think that freaks me out is he ever jokes to me that he would kill a guy that trying to get close to me, and he also often jokes about sadistic thing. When I said that I got scared when he told that, he asked "so you have a plan to cheat on me?" I said "no, of course" he replied "then why did you scared?" I replied "it just freaks me out". I really love him and he is a really nice guy. But sometimes his sadistic jokes makes me uncomfortable and when I said that im scared he keep continueing the jokes.
So, what I have to do? Is it possible that he is a psycho or im just paranoid? Do I have to continue this relationship or seeking a help?
Sorry for my bad English x_x thanks before!
I'll talk to him about things that making me uncomfortable and I hope he could understand. I still love him, and I dont want to end it yet. I really hope that he will change his behaviour. So thank you once again ^^
Most Helpful Guy
Looks like he had Been hurt in the past... I feel bad for this guy... He is literally so scared of getting cheated on that it has made him insecure...
It's not his fault... If you prove it to him that you will never hurt him he will start trusting in you and he will change...
But then again you don't sound like a Good girlfriend too as you mentioned in your another comment that you may leave him for another guy...
So I would suggest if you are gonna hurt him in future anyways then leave him more he deserves better...0
Most Helpful Girl
Sounds like he has insecurities. If it seems like he starts trying to control you, please get out of that relationship. It's hard to say at this point whether or not he is capable of being psychotic as I do not have enough information to take a stand on that. But if he starts acting too controlling, I'd say there's a great possibility that he would resort to being abusive in the future. Maybe he is just very insecure and doesn't want to lose you.
Tell him that you can have guy friends but that doesn't mean you will be unfaithful to him. Tell him that you would appreciate if he would respect that they were in your life before he was and that he has to be able to trust you if he wants the relationship to last. Let me know what he says. This will be a huge determining factor of his personality.1
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