She is younger than me and is also white and loves to date black men. I have never been attracted to black men. She thinks I need to try it. I absolutely dont have the need to do that. I like white men and that is it. Just like I am attracted to tall men and not short men. I dont want to date a trucker... their schedules are crazy. I dont want to date a newly divorced man. I dont want to date a man who has young children. Why can't I have a preference?
Everyone has their own preferences. There's races I'm generally not attracted to as well. Don't worry about someone saying you're racist, people say your racist for anything therefore, it's meaningless. Date who you want and if your friend doesn't like it, there's 3.6 billion other women to be friends with.
Honey, u are absolutely 100% correct. U are not racist, you just have a preference. Im just like you, im mostly attrected to white men, but im not racist, i have many black friends. Its the axact same thing as saying "i like blue eyes" or "i like tall guys" Your friend shouldn't call u a racist, if anything u can call her racist for not dating white men. Lol But if ur not physically attracted to them, ur not physically attracted to them, the relationship would crumble. Like who u like boo, its ur right.
There is no as harder thing to living as being who we are, and free of mind.
Keep having all the preferences you have, for whatever reason you have them. Just avoid, maybe, speaking them out in social contexts where they may prejudice relations. (On the other hand, if it's a serious friendship, being outspoken will try how serious that is, and may then be useful.)
Your friend need to realize that there's a difference between not liking something and feeling prejudice or hatred toward something. You can be ambivalent without being against it.
For example, I'm a woman. It doesn't make me a sexist if I refuse to date black men. I don't hate black men, nor do I have prejudice against, discriminate, or antagonize men. I just don't want to date them.
I don't think you can say "never" to something like that. I know how you feel, personally I'm the opposite and do not usually find white guys attractive. HOWEVER there are a few that I do. SInce people look very different, you can't exactly say you will aren't EVER attracted to black guys as they come with many different features.