So I'm a sophomore in college and I've never had a serious relationship... I don't have any friends. My family has basically abandoned me. I'm just alone. I suffer from severe depression and have for years, and i suffer from social anxiety. I'm honestly pathetically medicated and my doctor refues to try anything new. I just got out of honestly a very petty relationship with a girl i met off of tinder and I'm back to feeling shitty and laying in bed all day. I want to meet a woman, but honestly I don't like the choices of where I could meet a woman. I could try at the college, but college girls are so damn immature and annoying or they're taken. Any park is out because there are none around here. I want to make friends, but I find men to be so ignorant and annoying that I refuse to deal with them. Clubs are out because my college has really pathetic club options. My college doesn't hold hardly any events. So I'm just out of luck i guess. Honestly right now I'm fighting the urge to find a bridge. Nothing really seems worth it anymore. And I'm not going back to therapy...
Am I just out of luck?
What Girls Said 1
You keep calling girls immature or annoying, you keep calling men ignorant and annoying..
... Maybe the problem is you and no one else.0
What Guys Said 1
Ouch, that's tough. I was halfway into reading your question when I was about to suggest all the things you ruled about (making friends of the same gender, attending clubs, etc).
I'm a bit stumped at the moment with the depression and ruling all these other avenues out.
Your depression might give you a harsher but more realistic outlook in life which might make it hard to relate to those easy-going peers. If you're kind of a social outcast, you're outside that group that's kind of being stupid and having youthful fun, turning you into a critic with a very cynical outlook.
One possible route is to kind of try to suspend that stupidity radar and make an effort to join in the dumb fun, see what all the superficial nonsense people are into is really about. Try to find one nice friend (male or female) who can kind of give you a tour guide into that social side of the world.
An extreme alternative is a drastic change in scenery. Different places have very different types of people, more varied the further you go.
In any case, you have to kind of put yourself out there if you want a chance at all of these kinds of social things everyone enjoys. There's a bustling world full of people out there, right outside that home, that's active 24/7. There's endless opportunities to meet someone of some interest if you actively seek them out.
Try not to judge the sum of your life on your ability to get laid or be invited to places with friends. Doing that will often lead to an outlook and behavior that will very precisely prevent you from such opportunities.0
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