My boyfriend and I have been off and on the past 8 months. My big issue is him going away every weekend to his hometown. After our last breakup he wrote an email saying he loves me, wants to change, said he'll start the transition by coming back on Sundays to spend the day with me. I know no one is perfect, he might fail, but I did tell him I want him to show me that he's for real by actions and consistency. He says he's for real, but I need to see the change not just hear the words. I told him I'm stepping back and seeing what happens, but it's difficult when I love him. Should I just relax and not be so obsessed with him failing? So far he's making an effort but I'm cautious. Any advice would be appreciated!
Most Helpful Guy
People can't change, save for a short time (and under constrainment).
You should consider finding someone suiting you better, or trying to feel ok with the way he naturally is.0
Most Helpful Girl
depends on the guy. thing is, I'm not giving a guy chances to CHANGE. I'm giving a guy chances to UNDERSTAND that there are things I'm not okay with, and try his best not to persist with those things. as long as there is effort, I'm fine, but if he's got the mentality of "this is who i am", forget it.1