I have been really messy. How do I get myself out of this?
So I am dating multiple guys at the same time “no. I am not having sex with any of them” that would be crazy. There are eight guys right now ( + three guys, but they has stayed in the background *one of them is my ex boyfriend that is trying to get back with me*). I have been on a date with at least four of them and all the guys have asked me on a date again. Which is crazy. I hate saying no and love to give them all a chance even if I am not seeing a future with some of those guys but would love to be a friend to them. I don’t know what I am doing anyone and need to have some control over this situation now cause it is taking over my own time with friends, family and myself. I am only dating for fun. I am not looking for a boyfriend at all. What should I do?
One of the guys I do really like and get on with so well. It is scary but I think he only want me for one thing. I would love him as a friend (maybe future boyfriend?)…
Should I ask the guys for what their intentions are?
well if you dont want a boyfriend than why the hell are you dating them? but if you want one you see a future with and really want as a boyfriend than go for him but all in all you need to decide on what you really want, guys are not going to decide that for you, no matter how many you date.
... I am only dating for fun. So Continue your Flow with each Joe here, dear. Just Schedule out your 'Taking over my own time' so you can make the 'Time' for Everyone. It's not that Hard to Multitask each Man at Hand or anyone Else on your List. I commend you for going Slow with each Joe. It appears They are Not in any hurry to Settle down, just to Date and not find a Mate any time too soon, so go with the Flow. Don't Over think anything. You will Begin this Beguine of Getting Muddled brain and it will become a Real Drain for you. If there is any One of them who is Only after 'One thing,' then Forget him and Narrow it down who is the Best from the Rest. No, Silence is the Golden Goose in 'Should I ask the guys for what their intentions are' or you will End up an "Old Maid" to Sort of Speak when they Hurry and Scurry back into the Murky waters from which they Came out of from getting Cold Duck feet at the thoughts of What your Statement could mean in Regards to Possibly... Being Hooked at the Hip. BTW: Do not tell any of them about the Other. Good luck. xx
So you dating guys and you have no boyfriend and you want to know what their intentions are. You're right it is crazy but it's crazy because your crazy. Decide which one you would sleep with them that's the one you date the rest can go by the wayside
Guys, make sure you read what this girl has to say very very carefully. Now after you have done that never ever forget it and remember it the next time you think you want to commit to a girl in this hookup culture.
You are just a plate, a meal or a shoulder to cry on. Remember that!
i can see how that can happen. i had so many mail in my 20s and i could have gone out with everyone. but i didn't. i did go out with a lot. but after the first date, i usually know. so you have to know what you want. write a list for the things you want in a guy. you don't go on dates to just go for fun. you need to have some standards. it may seem mean but i didn't want anyone who din't have a college degree i didn't want anyone who live more than an hour away. just to give you some examples.
now that my situation is diff. i still have some standards, i would talk to them first kinda like an interview, so i was talkng/texting with a lot of guys then i meet them if the phone conversation went well.
so in essence, you are narrowing down those you don't want to waste your / their time.
ask yourself what it is you are looking for?
Let go of the guys you don't see a future with. They aren't there to amuse you.