So why do men talk to so many girls at one time, if they don't have a girlfriend? I know they are not obligated to anyone, so it's not cheating on anything, but don't they care at all about making at least one of the women their talking to feel special?
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Okay, don't start hating men because of this, but sometimes it's just fun to serial date. It feels good to get so much attention. Another aspect of it is that a man's sexual needs are strong and we have a harder time suppressing them than women. I know women's needs are just a strong but you guys just have the innate ability to put them on the back-burner, for the most part we kinda drop the ball in the respect. If there's a chance that we can have sex with a girl we find attractive we're going to go for it, sometimes (sadly, maybe 'often' is a more fitting) without even thinking about the emotional implications.
Also, I've found that women don't enjoy being single as much. Don't get me wrong, there are women out there who aren't looking for a relationship, but most are and it's rarer that you find a woman who is just looking for casual sex with little emotional involvement than a man who is. Again, I realize that there are women out there who are like this, it's just that men have no problem with just having casual sex even when they ARE looking for a relationship, and in fact casual sex takes precedence and if something comes out of it, bonus. Women though seem to have sex with the hopes of starting a relationship.
To put it into perspective I'll give you a scenario and tell you how the average guy thinks. You yourself are female so you should easily be able to see the obvious difference. Also, you have to know that girls and guys do think differently so don't call us pigs, or think it's gross, it's really out of our control for the most part especially when we are in our sexual prime.
Guy sees a girl he thinks is cute and thinks, 'Damn I want to see if I can f*** her.'
Guy approaches girl, in her mind this is going on, 'Can I see myself having sex with this guy, and is he good looking enough to impress my friends?' She doesn't actually think this, this is a natural human response because ALL first impressions are based on looks, don't buy into that love a first sight bullshit, it's lust at first sight, COMPLETELY DIFFERENT. So this actually takes place in her subconscious, and sometimes she does actively think it (depending on the girl).
You start talking and this is where I'm actually a little confused but it seems either she finds him interesting and wants to date him, or just have sex with him. What I don't get is if she is in fact actively looking for a relationship will she just agree to casual sex if she finds him really hot but isn't interested in him or not?
I can tell you the guy's take, we want to have sex with her regardless. Even if we don't want a relationship our primary goal will be bedding this girl and maybe keeping her around for as long as possible without getting to emotionally involved, unless we do want one. We won't even think about whether or not we're going to hurt you if you're looking for something more, because the truth is that sex gets in the way of us thinking that far ahead.3
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