My boyfriend was in an accident while we were cliff diving. While he was on flight for life an called his dad using his phone and saw a few explicit texts between him and a woman he used to be with. I asked him about it calmly and he flipped out and said that he doesn't want to be with a woman who goes through his phone. I honestly have never gone through his phone and he's never given me a reason to think anything, it was right there in the preview text when I looked down when I was frantically trying to find a signal and text or call his dad. I want to fix this somehow and tried to explain that I wasn't snooping. I don't know what to do now. He's so angry. And I'm not sure if he's just upset and we can get past this or if he's really done. I told him I thought we were at a point in our relationship where it didn't matter who saw what on who's phone. I wouldn't think twice if he picked up my phone.
Most Helpful Guy
my phone is an open book for my girlfriend. Same with hers. she can check it whenever she wants. If that makes her feel secure. So be it. I have nothing to hide and neither does she.1
Most Helpful Girl
I think you should move on. Although I'll be honest I think he'll come back, I just don't think you should take him back. You didn't even intentionally go through his phone, AND he's clearly talking to other women, so why is this worth your time? AND ON TOP OF THAT, he's not willing to talk through it with you and just got mad and cut you off. Even if I gave you advice to try and sit down and talk to him about it, his natural reactions are already turning me off and it sounds like you're way more mature than he is about these things. Any problems you have in the future will be a similar struggle.
There's nothing you can do but try and explain yourself, though I don't think he'll listen, he'll only talk to you on his own terms. Tell him that you just saw it in the previews and you didn't go through anything.2