After work drinks means after work drinks. It's the standard dating app first date where I live. It does NOT mean dinner.
It's normal to have to tell the waitstaff repeatedly you don't want more than drinks, and everyone else getting after work drinks is having that same conversation.
Now was he ignoring obvious signs from you? Maybe.
Or was he behaving totally normally given his assumption you were just there for drinks? Maybe.
Is there a reason you didn't just say when the server came by 'can I see the menu for appetizers' or something?
While this guy may lack any sort of social skills (or be a jerk) you really shouldn't show up for after works starving, or if you do, be ready to pull out your own credit card, order some food and let him know you haven't gotten a chance to eat much.
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I'd say it's inconsiderate but it could have been a communication issue too. He could have asked, but maybe he just thought you wanted a drink for the first date and that was it. He might not have very good communication skills and he didn't realize that he was being inconsiderate. I'd give him a second chance, and if he continues with that, don't go for third.
Around here, when we go on first dates, it's usually just a coffee date and if you like each other, you move on to dinner dates and etc. If it were me, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt just in case.
That is extremely inconsiderate. I would guess that he was wanting to get you drunk (and then have sex) and that is quicker, of course, if you haven't eaten. Even if that is not his reason, this was very rude behavior and enough of a warning sign that you should drop him like a hot potato.
i don't think it's necessarily weird that he texted you for another date. perhaps he things things went well. but i wouldn't go on another date without addressing the fact that he can't order for you, that you speak for yourself
While normally I just do drinks for a first date with someone online (tinder), this was rude for sure. I do drinks because you have no idea if you have any chemistry with this person, so a drink is cheap and easy to end early if you don't see it going anywhere. Now normally I progress to dinner, but I try not to start there. Either way, if you clearly just came from work and were hungry, and he did not explicitly say he just wanted to meet up for a drink or two then he was being rude, and likely cheap. I usually leave the menu on the table in case it progresses to food.
So either he was rude, cheap or not interested in you and wanted the date to end! Either way, I would not meet him again lol
wth.. Yes thats rude. thats incredibly rude and if I were you I would have stormed out. Who is he to tell you, you can't order something? and if he is controlling over a menu imagine what he would be controlling over if you were to actually date.
I once met a guy on a Dating Site and when we went to Meet up, He took me out to Eat, thinking it was going to be a treat, and the next thing I know... We are Sharing a buffet in a plastic "To GO" container at our table. As I nibbled on my side, Disgusted as I saw him taking Forkfuls on his own Side, He told me He Had already Eaten a little while with Mom so he wasn't... Hungry?: I lost my appetite and never went out with him Again, not even as a Friend. Drop this Cold Potato, here, dear. He is showing you the First Red Flag Signs of More Bad Times of being Cheap, only to get Worse... Not so Sweet. Yes, 'Inconsiderate,' but "Smart" in his own Head... If he knew you might Put Out, you Might have gotten Fed. Good luck. xx
Maybe by drinks he just meant drinks? Give him one more date and see how it goes but he does sound inconsiderate. Go for Italian food (or whatever you both like) and a movie? Avoid alcohol and be safe though as you should always be.