I met a guy on a dating app. He asked me to meet for drinks after work. He knew I was coming directly from work and we met in the city so we both traveled there.
We went to a restaurant and ordered drinks. The waiter kept asking if we want food and my date said no, no food, take the menus away.
He didn't even ask if I want food or if I ate or what. I found that super inconsiderate.
What do you think?
Most Helpful Guy
After work drinks means after work drinks. It's the standard dating app first date where I live. It does NOT mean dinner.
It's normal to have to tell the waitstaff repeatedly you don't want more than drinks, and everyone else getting after work drinks is having that same conversation.
Now was he ignoring obvious signs from you? Maybe.
Or was he behaving totally normally given his assumption you were just there for drinks? Maybe.
Is there a reason you didn't just say when the server came by 'can I see the menu for appetizers' or something?
While this guy may lack any sort of social skills (or be a jerk) you really shouldn't show up for after works starving, or if you do, be ready to pull out your own credit card, order some food and let him know you haven't gotten a chance to eat much.0
Most Helpful Girl
I'd say it's inconsiderate but it could have been a communication issue too. He could have asked, but maybe he just thought you wanted a drink for the first date and that was it. He might not have very good communication skills and he didn't realize that he was being inconsiderate. I'd give him a second chance, and if he continues with that, don't go for third.
Around here, when we go on first dates, it's usually just a coffee date and if you like each other, you move on to dinner dates and etc. If it were me, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt just in case.1