I am in a relationship have children, however I have fell in love with my really good friend who is married also. I've been ignoring this for so long hoping it was just Infatuation or lust. Here we are 3 years later and he is all i can think about! I know it's love because it's not about the looks this is something that progressed and I know he likes me as well. I will never act on this though! I love my partner but I am not in love with him and I am trying my best. I hate having sex now with him also which I feel so guilty about and just do it anyway feel like my life is crumbling around me and I don't want to hurt anyone 😞 please give me advice has anyone else had this. Thanks
Most Helpful Guy
you need to get counseling for both relationships because you are having an emotional relationship with this other guy... even if he isn't in it.
What you've done is embellished and perfected this other guy in your mind... he's perfect and your partner is human and flawed. And emotionally, you are all into this other guy and thus turned off to the one you committed to.
It feels great because your brain is getting all kinds of love drugs, but it isn't real... its imaginary. Maybe in reality there is a connection there, but it isn't good is it...
Get a marriage/family counselor to help you sort through this and your feelings and try to clear this up.
I'd honestly tell you to distance yourself from this other guy for now until you can sort through it... although I know you don't want to.
My guess is in your life, you have gotten borred, your needs aren't being met, or you are hurt in some way... trueth? Otherwise, why would you even have interest in the other guy. So this is really a marriage issue.1
Most Helpful Girl
Honestly I think this is wrong you having feelings for somebody else who is married and the fact that you're married I feel like this is really wrong and horrible I married myself but I show no feelings to anyone it's not fair to your husband that you have feelings for someone else you tell him how you were feeling and get out of that relationship because it's not fair to him he need to be able to process and MoveOn he does not deserve this at all and as for the other guy you need to stop seeing him because he is married also you may think you know what he's feeling he's probably just being you as a friend and you could ruin someone else's life by acting on your actions and your feelings0