There is a young girl (she is in her 20s) she has three kids by three different men. She wonders why she can't find a decent guy. She is a sweet girl. Do you think having these kids by different men hurt her chances to find a good guy?
Most Helpful Guy
they may. one big step is to figure out what is the sort of root cause of having not found the right guy yet. is it her, her selection in men, or something else. my concern for a woman like this would be why is she consistently selecting the wrong men AND why is she having babies with so many men without hammering down whether or not they are worth keeping around.
i'd say sure they can find a good guy but it would mean serious reflection on past relationships and the reasons why they fail to avoid the same scenarios going forward4
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Most Helpful Girl
And it may not even be that she is a bad woman or a slut, but simply having kids by different men will make men and people judge you. Either you are stupid because you don't take care of yourself, naive because you really know nothing of the world and what happens when you have sex or slutty and just go sleeping around with everyone - in which all 3 cases, nobody wants.. Only someone extremely good and kind and financially stable and lonely would choose to go for such a woman who is NAIVE (not stupid and not slutty).. That is the only way she will find mr. right / a good man..
BUt other than that, she better be prepared to be a single mother and do it on her own because barely any man will put up with children that are not his own, and even worse when it is 3 AND he is young.
That is extremely unlikely to happen... at least at a sserious long term level. Sorry girl.. You are going to have to get an education, job and educate yourself along with your children. That is the only way you can give you and your kids some sort of future. Otherwise, brace yourself for a long term life of unhappiness, hardships and difficulty, maybe even poverty.
I am sorry to say, but such is life - especially for young women with kids.
And then people cry about doing abortion... but anyway, that's a whole other topic :)7
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