I'm about to leave my long term boyfriend for a few reasons (mostly just simple incompatibility). Honestly I'm scared to be single after this long. I know there are a lot of people older than me, who have been in relationships much longer, who have no trouble finding someone else afterwards. But still, change is daunting. And what if reenter the dating world and realize how good I had it here?
I guess I'm just looking for reassurance that there are good, decent single men in their mid 20s (seems like everyone's marrying young nowadays). Men who are kind and fun and responsible and who appreciate a sensitive, grounded girl with a quirky sense of humor.
I would not worry in the slightest, in fact I would take lots of time to yourself now before moving on. No one wants to rush into a relationship because they fear being alone...
I am 24 and appreciate all those things, and I think I am decent enough. It seems like everyone is getting married, but I think it is more of just a shock how many people do get married right out of school, but it is a small percent, social media just throws it in your face more than the single people do.
I think your only issue, is now you have to contend with the many people who are single because they WANT to be, such as myself. But I would say still even more guys want relationships than compared to those who do not and or married.
Don't worry you will be fine but first let yourself heal for the breakup and just have fun being single.. do things on your bucket list you weren't able to do while with him. Enjoy life! Yes you will find someone and yes there is still good guys out there. Do not stay in a relationship just because you are afraid of being alone. Trust me you will feel such a sense of freedom when you do. Speaking from experience I was with someone for 8 years broke up 2.5 years ago at the age of 26 . I've been with my boyfriend 2 years now and he is amazing and I'm happy. Best of luck!
You will need some time to recover from the breakup, then you will need some time to devote to the search. Understand that you will sort through much chaff before you find the wheat, but all you need to find is ONE good guy. It wouldn't mean very much if it was an easy assignment, so don't expect it to be easy. . . but the goal makes it worthwhile. There are men who are graduating college and still single, ready to be responsible members of society but they still know how to have fun. Good luck!
I see them around. Dating is about learning about yourself and your needs. expect to go through a few, and possibly a marriage before knowing what you need.
If the emotions are still all tied up here, get counseling. Read a few relationship books, take time off... this is serious stuff and you need time to make sure you pick someone better and learn all that you can from this about yourself and what you really work well with. So often... we just go right back in... and pick the same person... with same results... .. childhood experiences steering your ship for you...
I think your chances of finding a good guy now are better because they are older and hopefully more mature, established (or getting there) and know what they want in life. Same with you. Best of luck! I'm sure you will.
There are plenty of men out there looking but maybe you should take this time for yourself and not get hung up on finding another mate right away. often times the best men come along when you aren't looking for it. Besides, if your last mate wasn't compatible, take this time to figure out exactly what you like and want. I'm sure you've changed a lot since you met him at age 22.