Like the title suggests, I'm a black woman. I'm very aware of the social stigmas regarding how black woman and Asian men supposedly fare on dating sites but, nontheless I don't consider myself to be ugly at all. I also am aware that there are indeed black women who do excellent with online dating. But honestly, what's the deal with it? I tried 3 dating apps as an experiment and compared my results with an acquaintance of min who isn't black and she also noticed that I did poorly to averagely. She's beautiful and I understand why she's getting so many responses but I don't think I'm that bad in the looks department. It frustrated me so to the point that I deleted all the apps and didn't continue with the experiment. It's not as of all black women are unattractive or look the same. I'd love to hear some feedback and responses from all directions.
Statistical trends are out there that say black women may have a disadvantage in the interracial dating scene, so your race may play a role unfortunately. I dunno why people deny that. It may not even be a pure physical thing, the stereotypes against black women suck. But, even with that, it doesn't dictate much. You will still have guys who are interested in you. Since race is something you cannot control and since you are a pretty girl... like some others said, just work on your profile and taking a nicer photo to share. You're the same girl regardless of photo, but I mean, just to give you your best chance... try something that's more universally pleasant as the main photo so that it's not intimidating and is pleasantly eye catching. Good luck!
I'm not saying you are ugly, but for the guys on the dating sites, you are not what they are looking for or as attractive as you think are. The question is where you waiting for responses or actively hitting up or talking to people? I understand the predicament you are in. I am only attractive to women who are open to Asian men / young guys.
Have you tried to sign up for some meetup groups? It seems to me that a good way to find romance, would be to get involved in something you like to do, (hiking? Running? Trivia?) and get out there with other people with shared interests.
That way at least you are mingeling with people with some things they like in common, and that seems at least a starting point with romance.
The results you get on dating sites and app is very different from that you get in real life. A good photoshop can make you look the most gorgeous women on dating apps and also personality is not taken into account. I do horribly on tinder but my results in real life are much better
Good pictures make a big difference and it's something I also struggle with this as well as a white male though I think it's something everyone finds hard work or if they don't I'm jealous. Lighting, angles , what to wear, location and ideally taken by someone else but also with you prepared for a photo. Have you tried long hair? even if its frizzy I think it still looks best www.google.co.uk/imgres I mean there are certainly some black women that look beyond incredible. I haven't known many black women and none who I think saw me as more than a temporary friend or acquaintance though I did find 2 of the few I knew very attractive but it's hard for me to know my own real life preferences with such a small sample. Ever way there are a lot of other things where I have a stronger preference and you're probably doing better than most guys. You said you got messaged less than your hot best friend but you where still messaged by people. I got likes (it won't tell me how many or all there names since its free ATM) and 3 replies to the 4 messages I've sent so far which I consider good but no one messaged me and all 3 times I was the last one in the thread. My messages where well thought out and only targeted at the strongest matches. It would have been nice if someone messaged me first not a bot or scamer though obviously.
As a black girl in the UK (London). I got as much interest as my white/Asian friends. I'd get about 40 messages a day on an average day. Maybe it's the country? I'm not Beyoncé or Rihanna either. But I'm shapely and my face is okay. The area really determines how popular it is, since London is very open and young about interracial dating and has more numbers. But once I used tinder in the small towns, I'd get much less than most.