So I've known this guy for 3 months, he's a great person and super cool, I enjoy talking with him. He's really attractive, tall, dark skin, in amazing shape and we get along great personality wise. The thing is I just see him as a friend, I was confused my self but I don't know I couldn't see myself dating him. He flirts with me but I just brush it off. Have you ever friend zoned someone "hot" and what were your reasons?
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I actually managed to date a model once -- not a major celebrity or anything of that sort, just a girl who was quite attractive who did photo shoots for casual wear, swimsuits (not too sexual), that sort of thing. She's probably as close as I got to the "trophy" girlfriend.
She wasn't like a stereotypical model either. She was easy-going, fun-loving, had fairly interesting things to talk about like traveling (she did it a lot for her work).
However, we just didn't have that strong of a connection. Her whole life seemed like one endless party to me with most of her conversations being about the places she's been, the parties she has attended, the luxury hotels she stayed in, etc. I'm a software engineer -- I don't quite relate to that kind of lifestyle (I party myself but not in that kind of extravagant way).
Also while she looked stunning in a dress, in the bedroom she just kind of threw her clothes off and lay there. It's like I'd put her in a 9 on the street but maybe 6 in the bedroom -- almost zero effort, and she just didn't seem nearly as beautiful to me in that context.
Anyway, we kind of friend-zoned each other. The whole relationship wasn't really picking up in terms of intimacy. We enjoyed each other's company, but that was about it.0
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Yes I have, and exactly those reasons. I thought he was hot but just didn't feel anything.
I've only ever truly fallen for someone once and he had me feeling butterflies in my stomach, my cheeks would getting hot, I'd feel electricity go through my body, and my heart would beat fast. And those are the feelings I have when I like someone; it's like I get all excited and shy at the same time... anyway but yeah I've friend zoned someone hot - looks aren't everything, there has to be chemistry.1