Okay, guys i don't want to be that ex who randomly texts you and your like fuck off. You know? I don't want him back or anything but i was just going through emails and the way i treated him when all he ever did was love me with every bone in his body devastated me, I just want to give him a heartfelt apology, ( this is like a year old ) we speak here and there, And about the family part ( his girlfriend has a daughter who he's being a step dad too they've been together maybe like 8 months)
Should i just not do what i feel? Is it redundant? I'm really sorry for my actions, and i want him to know that. But i don't want to intrude on their relationship. Honest advice please.
Most Helpful Guy
Do nothing. Your only gonna make him remember the past. Let him and you both move on and do not contact each other. He is really trying it with this new girl. He obviously likes her just leave it be. Its best to go your own ways. Exes are exes for a reason. People only hold on because they could see getting back together. Its best to live your lives separately1
Most Helpful Girl
If you speak here and there, then I think it's fine if you apologize to him. If you weren't in contact anymore, it would be a different story.
HOWEVER. I'd keep the apology short and simple. Something like "hey, I was just going through some old emails, and reading the things I said to you and reflecting on how I treated you made me feel very bad. I just want you to know that I'm really sorry and I regret behaving that way. I wish you the best with your current girlfriend."
Anything longer than that will just make you come off as clingy and he could end up questioning your motives. A shorter apology actually does feel more genuine as well in most cases, especially if you apologize for something that happened a long time ago. It would just feel a bit unnecessary to write an entire novel to him at this point, you know.1