This has been on my mind for a while and I just thought now is the best time to ask. Several men I work with and just know in general tell me good guys exist but I'll never find one and if I did, they would never want me. So why do men say good guys don't exist?
3mo Oh my goodness people, I didn't say I would never find one, I said the men I was talking to said that. Good gravy...
They say that because they are talking about themselves as a whole and the kinds of guys they've met and have in their life. There are good guys, but there really isn't a whole lot because of how they have been taught. From what's on the media, to magazines like Cosmopolitan telling sexual lies, etc. I remember my mother had said that my great grandpa had always said 'Men are dogs'. Why? Because sadly that is the mentality males are taught to have instead of having self control and self discipline so that they can learn to properly love a woman. To have respect for her, and to learn when to tell her no to things that will cause problems. So that he can be a leader in marriage and to take on his roll as the head of the household.
Good Guys definitely exist - but they're also relatively rare (probably moreso now than any time in history, due to some side effects of the Feminist [and more specifically RadFem] movements). Good Guys are like hot girls - they know they're attractive because people aren't shy about telling them so, and they quickly figure out that they're in high demand and have lots of options, so they set their standards high.
For those of us who aren't at least a "9", it means that guys won't likely be dating a girl with supermodel looks and girls won't likely be dating a currently-successful Good Guy.
A smart "under 9/10" girl will focus on the Nice Guys with the greatest potential and the least problems with confidence, and help him BECOME a Good Guy. This works FAR better than trying to turn a Bad Boy into a Good Guy - though many girls feel compelled to try - and almost always fail.
For those who watch The Big Bang Theory, this is exactly what Penny did with Leonard - she picked the least pathetic, most good-hearted, and least-socially-awkward Nice Guy she could find and built up his confidence and experience and helped him become a Good Guy.
Good guys do exist, I am one. I care about who the girl is, I want to spend time with her and be in love with her. 'Bad guys' are guys who just want to have sex with girls, they don't care too much about who she is or how good of a mother she would be or how virtuous she is or any of that. Good guys care about working with a girl through her problems and try to help her with her faults, bad guys don't care and will leave whenever they want.
Yes, believe it and I am one. I also think every women's view of a "good guy" varies slightly sometimes depending on their own personal likes/dislikes. You having the attitude of "I'll never find one and if I did, they would never want me" isn't going to help you find one though.
I have never heard of other men explicitly saying good guys don't exist. Usually it's the men advocating for their existence. I mean, I know for a fact that I'm a good guy, so that means there must be more like me.
There is no man that does good that's what the bible says
I wouldn't just say something like that if I didn't believe it... would I? Actually I'm not so sure. Hmm...
Good guys exist. We're just a little reserved about our feelings because at some point being a good guy wasn't good enough.
" but I'll never find one and if I did, they would never want me. " . İts so obvious why they don't like you. And as a good person , I don't want you too. Maybe it comes to you bad. Probably you will not like my comment but since I know you , your comments and all your stuff ; you came to me so rude person. A bad personality also destroy a beautiful face. Don't worry you are not the only one. I saw a couple of women here. And comedically they are all alone and they are complaining about men everytime while other women fall in love to men and making good stuff and having good times with men. The only thing I can suggest to you. First change your personality. And read self-help books. Otherwise you will be alone forever , or even if you find one then this doesn't mean that you will be happy.
Why are those guys so pessimistic? Don't let them bring fear and worry to your head. They say that because of the fact that they are full of fear and worry. Have hope and faith, stay positive and the right guy will happen to you. He will not be perfect because no one is but if you work on the relationship he will be the right one for you.
Men believe it because they all think of themselves as good guys. I know men who are nice to their friends, family, co-workers etc. and have treated their ex-girlfriends well, so they call themselves good guys.
But what they leave out is the way they treat women who like them, go on dates with them etc, which is often behaviour that us women would not class as expected behaviour from a 'good guy'.