OK so I've been talking to this girl for 2 weeks now and we started shrink things about what we are looking for in the most honest way possible even the silliest things... so we made each other a list of things we want from a significant other... well on her list is must have a big dick! ... well I'm not big.. in fact in down right small and I just wonder if I should tell her this? Or not? I don't want to ruin what we have its great so far. What should I do?
Girls, Should I be upfront about my size?
What Girls Said 3
My advice is not to say anything until it is an actual issue. It may never be an issue so why bring it up before then. But if it does become an issue then bring it up.
Even if it is an issue it is not that big of deal, no pun intended. lol! Women's sexuality is very fluid and there is all kinds of ways a small penis can still be the star of a show. :) No worries. It can all work out.
I sort of think you've missed your opportunity to say anything, no offence.
I think what you should have done was, when she said that (and maybe you could do this if you end up in this situation again), was say to her something like "hmm, so if you met a guy who was perfect for you but didn't have a big dick, what would you do?" and see what she would say to that. And if she said something like "Why, do you have a small dick?", you could answer "I just thought it was a bit of a superficial thing to say."
Then if she is still adamant that she wants a guy with a big dick, you would need to decide if you want to bother seeing her again (I wouldn't). If she seems nice and says something that makes you think she would be ok with a guy with a smaller dick, then you could carry on seeing her, and maybe bring it up before sex - it's kind of pointless before then, as you might not even last that long anyway due to other reasons.
But I think a girl that actually cared about you would not be put off. So now that you have kind of missed the chance to bring it up naturally, my advice would be to carry on seeing her, and try to steer the conversation that way again, but subtly. I wouldn't ask her outright.0
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