It's almost impossible if you fixate on one girl, develop feelings for her over long periods of time, and then ask her out.
The amount of time invested in her vs. the rejection that will often follow will make it seem like there's no hope in life.
Ask girls out sooner and it's much easier. Strike up a conversation with a girl, get her to laugh or just be really interested in what you have to say, then hit them with an invite to hang out somewhere else. Often you can ask a girl out the same day you met her.
Do this and even if you get a ton of rejections, they won't sting much at all since you didn't develop any feelings for the girl and can just move onto the next one you find attractive.
Most importantly, don't just fixate on catching girls. Focus on building up your army of friends and acquaintances and growing popular among them. Develop the right kind of social skills.
it really just depends on who you're interested in. Some women make it difficult, others are eager to jump in your arms. Remember that relationships are hard work, but so is putting yourself out there with the fear of rejection eating away at you. I think we all have that fear of never meeting "the one", but I think that everyone has a soulmate. Being pessimistic and psyching yourself out by saying that it's "demoralizing and depressing" will only keep you away from a relationship. Try going in it with a positive attitude, but keep your hopes in check. Don't get too attached to someone too soon and you'll be good, man. Also remember that it won't just take a couple of days to get into a relationship. (Well it might, depends lol) anyway, I hope you find someone 👍🏻
It is really hard for girls to find a boyfriend too.
Just keep trying, and don't let yourself become bitter and end up hating women.
There are nice girls just as there are nice guys. And both get hurt a lot by people who are not very nice.
The guy who advised you to use dating as a way of getting to know a girl, rather than friendship, is spot on. I never get attached to men just by chatting to them. I get attached from going on dates, kissing, etc.
It is hard. Rejection is hard to face but you gotta push through. Once you can get past the fear of that then you will be on your way.
It's not hard... just don't take everything so seriously... play around, have fun, and ask people out without investing yourself to heavily in the results. See who bites.
And ditch the word "rejection"... it a harsh word and puts too much significance on an everyday occurrence.
Your parents told you "no" when you asked if you could stay up late as a kid... your friends told you "no" when you asked them if they wanted to go out drinking... your employer told you "no" when you asked to take your vacation in the middle of a busy month.
And yes, women are going to tell you "no" when you ask them out.
I feel the same. I have questions I want the answers to but I don't have at the moment. I can say is to wait and be patient, meet many people and make a life. It's tough but have the right attitude and mentality.
I work surrounded by many many people and I feel just as alone.. as I was the only one at this place I work.. it's tough to make friends it's tough to make a connection period.
I tried believe me. I talk to many girls but many have passed me up for someone else... I been overlooked for other guys and it sucked.. but in the midst of all this here.. I know I'll bump into a girl and we will go places!
you need just money to have a girlfriend. All girls want money
The problem is in trying to get a girl. Us guys make the mistake of being too nice to girls, which they don't appreciate. Stop trying to get a girl as a girlfriend. What you do is talk to them and she will eventually give you sex, then you can move on to the next. Whats so hard about that?
It is if you're average looking. Just come to terms with that and work from there.
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