I'm single but honestly I don't want to be anymore, at first I was cool with it, but after three years I'm done.
The thing is, I feel like I won't be able to find someone I like and likes me back.
Making the first moves and putting myself out there and getting rejected constantly seems tiring demoralizing and depressing.
Is it really that hard?
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It's almost impossible if you fixate on one girl, develop feelings for her over long periods of time, and then ask her out.
The amount of time invested in her vs. the rejection that will often follow will make it seem like there's no hope in life.
Ask girls out sooner and it's much easier. Strike up a conversation with a girl, get her to laugh or just be really interested in what you have to say, then hit them with an invite to hang out somewhere else. Often you can ask a girl out the same day you met her.
Do this and even if you get a ton of rejections, they won't sting much at all since you didn't develop any feelings for the girl and can just move onto the next one you find attractive.
Most importantly, don't just fixate on catching girls. Focus on building up your army of friends and acquaintances and growing popular among them. Develop the right kind of social skills.1
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