It's a phenomenon guys face all across the world. Where being nice to a girl from the start tends to drive her away into another person's arms. A lot of guys don't want to act like assholes or indifferent to women but that seems to be the how you get anywhere these days.
Why do men have to turn themselves into monsters to be seen more than a friend for women?
Your kind of trying to attract a woman by demonstrating feminine qualities, that would work on lesbian if you had a vagina. Think about it if a woman wanted nice they'd date women. Just because your nice doesn't mean a girl will drop her panties, they need to wooed, challenged, flirted with and above all won by a testosterone fuelled red blooded male. I know SJW's are promoting gender neutrality and male castration but at the back of it all not even the most ardent feminist will let a guy with a mangina screw her. I recommend you vist tge Return of Kings website to drop this nice/bitter bullshit and get solid dating and sex advice.
It doesn't. There is nothing inherently unattractive about being nice, and nothing attractive about being a 'bad boy'.
Women are very simple compared to men. We are either interested in you or we are not. If we do like you, then we can't just turn our feelings off like men do. If we don't like you, we usually never will.
We often unknowingly choose the wrong men. 'Bad boys' always pretend to be nice at first, and it is easy to fall for it, if you fancy him. 'Bad boys' get rejected too, it's just that they don't care, so will not be online posting about it, they will just move on to the next girl.
If we don't fancy a 'nice guy', it is not because he's nice. We're just not attracted to him.
You can be kind to women and lure their sexual interest as long as you don't do it the "nice guy" way. It's mostly attitude.
Those types of "nice guys" can often be spotted a mile away. You might notice them in your social group where the guy is obviously being so sweet to a girl because he likes her. It's often accompanied by a mindset like, "She deserves to be with someone who cares about her (i. e., me)." And that mindset is ultimately selfish, because it wouldn't apply if there were 10 other nice guys being nice to her and competing for her attention. Each one would think they deserve her because they care about her.
Women are attracted to attractive qualities. Being caring isn't one of the top ones there. It's not for us either. I'm not suddenly going to fall in love with an overweight girl I find unattractive because she's being so kind to me. We're no better in this sense.
Too many Hollywood romance films make us think that the guy who cares the most about the girl is ultimately going to win the girl. This isn't at all like reality. In real life, the guy who is most attractive to a girl gets the girl.
Realizing this is ultimately a game of attraction is one the keys to turning things around if you fit in this "nice guy" category.
You are right, it does seem that way. I've had similar opinions. Doesn't make sense, but some girls are attracted to total jerk offs or indifferent people. I am convinced that I lost someone special last year because after 2 months of dating, I expressed how much I liked her, and she ran. I would just be yourself, and not play games like being indifferent or act like a jerk if it's not you. Who cares if she runs. Someone will come along who won't run, and that's the one you want to hang around with.