So I had sex with someone I'm dating and it was not what I expected. It was horrible. Like no, like really bad. And now I'm no longer interested in dating him. I feel really shallow, but it's kind of like I immediately lost interest.
Most Helpful Guy
Just curious, but in what way was the sex bad? Was it just really boring? Was he too rough? Too fast/slow? If you can tell exactly what it is that you didn't like, maybe you should consider "coaching" him on how to do it better. Communicate a little. If you weren't that into him to start with, then maybe move on, but if you really like him otherwise, I'd probably say stick with it and just try to communicate a little more with him. He might just be inexperienced and need a little guidance for you to see a big improvement.1
Most Helpful Girl
I'd say that sex is pretty important. Many not so much in itself but if you have good sex, that will generally result from good sexual chemistry. People can deny it all they want but engaging in sexual activities together, as well as the resulting hormonal cocktail, is a huge factor in terms of what helps those in relationships feel closer and more stable/trusting in what they have.
I wouldn't say that you should feel shallow over not enjoying sex. I mean... isn't that what differs between really good friends and significant others? Sexual libido is an innate drive in all, and the motivating factor behind any romantic relationships. It's not like anyone would enjoy paying for meals or countless bouquets of roses if they were not anticipating ever receiving anything in return.1