So I had sex with someone I'm dating and it was not what I expected. It was horrible. Like no, like really bad. And now I'm no longer interested in dating him. I feel really shallow, but it's kind of like I immediately lost interest.
Just curious, but in what way was the sex bad? Was it just really boring? Was he too rough? Too fast/slow? If you can tell exactly what it is that you didn't like, maybe you should consider "coaching" him on how to do it better. Communicate a little. If you weren't that into him to start with, then maybe move on, but if you really like him otherwise, I'd probably say stick with it and just try to communicate a little more with him. He might just be inexperienced and need a little guidance for you to see a big improvement.
I'd say that sex is pretty important. Many not so much in itself but if you have good sex, that will generally result from good sexual chemistry. People can deny it all they want but engaging in sexual activities together, as well as the resulting hormonal cocktail, is a huge factor in terms of what helps those in relationships feel closer and more stable/trusting in what they have.
I wouldn't say that you should feel shallow over not enjoying sex. I mean... isn't that what differs between really good friends and significant others? Sexual libido is an innate drive in all, and the motivating factor behind any romantic relationships. It's not like anyone would enjoy paying for meals or countless bouquets of roses if they were not anticipating ever receiving anything in return.
Sex is very important in a long term relationship so if it was that bad and you are no longer interested in him I think you definitely not date him any more and I don't think you should feel shallow about losing interest in a man no matter what the cause was for losing interest.
Sex can be worked on, you just have to be open enough to say that the experience wasn't good and you guys need to improve. Otherwise, hey, if you wanna move on it's your right to do so. No sense in entering a relationship where you aren't satisfied completely.
Sex is an important part of a relationship, of course you can't expect it to be amazing the first time, but if it was really that bad then I understand you.
Well sex or me is very important too, and that has happened to me a few times, the guy being super nice like perfect match until it comes to sex, I mean if it's a bit bad I'd give them another chance to see if it was just a one time occasion, but if I see it's horrible from the start I just can't deal with it, I don't consider myself shallow, but I'm a very sexual person and even though sex isn't the main thing, if it's bad it'll affect my level of attractiveness towards a person and vice versa
Why don't you use it as an opportunity to teach him? Men love to be taught, especially if they get a little reward for every little trick they do haha.
But if they get it wrong, rub their nose in it.
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