I'm slightly bigger than what he likes. 10 pounds heavier than his usual preference. I'm not skinny but I'm not fat either. He, however likes petite girls... but says he likes me anyway. Despite being shallow generally... and constantly asks me to lose weight. However he can't keep his hands off of me. And really seems to like having sex with me..
3mo I should also mention that he's extremely fit and good looking. Doesn't find it very hard to date women. So why stick with me if it bothers him that much?
He thinks yiur sexy he probably would prefer you at a smaller weight but finds something about you plenty attractive
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So from reading your other comments- he constantly tells you you're too fat (not even saying it politely) constantly points out other women, then when you went to the gym he was so mean to you there you stopped going. Just think to yourself... what would you tell a friend with a "boyfriend" like that? I know what I'd do and what I'd tell a friend to do- and that wouldn't be working on ways to make an asshole happy. It'd be making myself happy and moving on.
Just in general, a guy who's extremely fit and good-looking will probably want you to be the same. It could be a combination of wanting to feel equally attracted to his partner (aka shallowness) and possibly even concerns about your health (more noble kind of intentions).
A good-looking man with a nice physique is generally going to be very conscious about his appearance and work hard, making sure his body goes through intense, exhausting motions periodically to maintain that appearance. He cares deeply about his appearance, and it's kind of natural to extend the same kind of standards to his mate.
It's like a person who is a vegan will probably want you to ideally share the same diet. Again that's kind of coercing a partner to hold the same kind of dietary standards, but it's a yearning to have a partner on mutual grounds who cares equally about the same kinds of things.
Wanting to have sex often with a girlfriend is more a sign that he's horny. Put crudely, a guy could do that with a hag if he was trapped on an island with her. Being able to easily attract other women might still compel him to at least try to make an effort to get you as conscious about your appearance and health as he is, since he might be drawn to all kinds of other qualities about you that he doesn't just find in an ordinary beautiful woman.
Has it ever occurred to you that he may be saying it just because he wants you to work out with him or he only has your best interest at heart or that letting you know that your a little overweight isn't as bad as you think it is?
He sounds like a good guy, he's attracted to you and doesn't want you to get fat for your sake and his too. You should be glad he tells you whats on his mind rather than pretend like it's not a problem you have. Trust him. Just trust him.
So he likes petite women? When I think of petite women I think small frame and thin. It sounds like you're average to me. But guys see things differently then we do.
I don't think you putting 10 pounds on is what is bothering him. He still enjoys intimacy with you. But he just may of preferred you when you were 10 pounds less. But by saying that, his still sexually attracted to you.
I think he really likes your personality, likes your face, and probably feels that if you were smaller in size you would be perfect for him. If it was just about sex then he wouldn't care about your size, he would sleep with you then leave. If it was just about health, he wouldn't put emphasis on "petite" so its definitely about looks... I'd say hit the gym with him, if thats what you want to do.
He doesn't want to admit he likes thick girls to his friends and other people. You embarrass him on the street. Tell him to shut the fuck up and deal. if you don't want to lose weight, then don't do it.
10 lbs is not a big difference. What a loser he is. He doesn't like you, he's using you for sex. He's only with you because he hasn't found anyone he actually likes to cheat on you with. DUMP this piece of trash.
Then he might just want you to be healthy. If his lifestyle is extremely active and he puts in time and effort to work on his body then he might want a partner that shares that. That doesn't mean he's not attracted to you as you already know.
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