Are relationships an ego boost for you, or do you start questioning your physical attributes and what you'd like to change about yourself even though you know for sure the other person thinks you're attractive? ( I mean otherwise he or she wouldn't go out with you in the first place ;) )
Most Helpful Guy
I understand the question and it can be both but generally I feel more secure especially at the stages where I can feel I trust her feelings for me - I think everyone at the start of a relationship might have a few doubts plus if you were on the wrong end of someone moving away from you - If you are in a stable relationship and you let insecurity or irrational jealousy in, I guarantee you that relationship will not last, it can become controlling and possessive on a number of levels thus driving other person away.1
Most Helpful Girl
With me it's sort of a mixture but I think there's a reason for that:
When I was with my ex I'd mostly feel confident, I mean - He'd constantly tell me I was pretty/cute/beautiful/gorgeous/hot/fit/sexy, he'd tell me he loved me, would get nervous around me, changed his phone background to a picture of me, would ask for selfies of me even if I wasn't wearing anything particularly exciting - like even if it was just normal casual clothes and a hat or something, would tell me how I helped him get over his depression, how he would never leave me because I was apparently the most beautiful girl he'd ever met and I'd helped him a lot, thought I was funny, thought I was nice, would tell everyone about me and all that..
I felt pretty confident about all that.. until he said stuff that made me question his loyalty and I found out he was cheating on me in the end.
Got a different boyfriend now who is a lot nicer and appears to be more honest and loyal. He calls me cute/beautiful/fit/hot too, tells me he loves me, admitted he liked me all the time he was with his ex (apparently she wasn't a very nice gf), talks about wanting to marry me when we're older, is respectful, talks about what he likes about my personally as well as my looks and is caring.
He makes me feel confident sometimes but other times I worry in case he ends up liking another girl but not breaking up with me because of it (like my ex), I don't like the idea of being with someone who would rather be with someone else, I seem to have a big fear of that. When I worry about it, sometimes it can be a bit out of no where and I'll be embarrassed to tell him but every time I do, he assures me I'm the only girl he loves, he knows he won't love anyone else and promised on mine and his life, and even his nans grave that I was his one true love.
I always try write stuff like that down or remember it to reassure myself yet sometimes I just think "He says that now but he'll end liking someone prettier/nicer who doesn't have the mental issues I have. I'm a nightmare".1