I went on a first date with a guy and at the end of the date he says.."I just want someone to have a good time with but I don't want a relationship"...
yet he texts me relentlessly, compliments me all the time, wants to see me every day.
i just don't understand why guys have to throw in the "I don't wanna date you btw" when I barely even know them, yet continue to seem not just kind of, but super interested
what's normal TO ME is not thinking way ahead and just going on dates and seeing how it goes because you DONT KNOW THE PERSON YET... so I don't get why boys feel they have to decide the fate of a relationship from the second it starts? And it feels like I'm being rejected when I haven't even said what I wanted yet. Honestly, after date one, when a guy says he doesn't want to date me, I'm like dang I didn't ASK YOU TO, it feels like they assume every girl always wants a relationship when sometimes we go on a few dates and don't feel like a relationship either. I've had like 90% of the guys I've ever talked to say this to me and I'm 19. I've only had one boyfriend. I've acted different with many of these guys and yet I still seem to somehow never be good enough for some guys from the get-go? Like I don't get what's wrong with me that they have to make it completely evident they don't want me when I never mentioned that? it hurts so much. At least give me a few dates/weeks before you basically reject me? I just don't understand this behavior
Most Helpful Guy
perhaps you have that "i dont want a relationship" vibe or you dont seem interested and/or you seem like guys are not important to you, so the guys decide to split and look for someone who does, guys are just very impatient.
or the guys are stupid players and just want a fuck-buddy.
or you wait too long to tell a guy how you feel and what you want.0
Most Helpful Girl
you reaalllyyy dont know?
can't guess why in the world a single male these days would he want a living sex toy without going through the hassle of treating her like a human and being nice and all that needless, useless waste of time?
better question is
why do you let him play you like that?