A friend of mine (who admittedly counts among the more experienced guys) said this during a conversation a while back - that when dating, guys are better off if they've had several partners and sexual encouters in the past, thus being more experienced in dealing with potential sexual partners, but that this trait is undesirable in girls, putting them in a disadvantage. I didn't agree initially - people don't generally ask their dates how many partners they have had before them (or so I think). But maybe, as a 22-year old virgin, I'm a prime example of this pattern. What do you think?
Boys like your friend only think that because experienced women can tell who actually sucks in bed and who doesn't. Experience and knowledge is power, even in the bedroom and customarily men like to dominate (often but not always) and some like to let the girl take charge. An experienced girl will know more about sex and if he's tending to her needs equally or if he's just doing what gets him off and not really caring how satisfied she is in the end. Experience isn't a hindrance because "we" will know better.
As a guy you are MUCH better off being experienced. Most girls see virgin guys as pathetic, so much so its used as a random insult. Like on gag if a guy is saying something that girls find offensive they will say something like "I bet you're still a virgin" even though it had nothing to do with whit the conversation. That fact it is so quickly used as an insult tells me its something that has a negative connotation.
If you're experienced therebis nothing for them to use to insult you. You never see girls insult a guy by saying "I bet you get laid all the time". Its kinda funny, I have seen girls try to accuse guys who sleep around of not being able to get laid. Its almost like they want it to be true. Like if a guy has a bad attitude they want to create the narrative of him being a virgin even if the opposite is true.
Anways, experienced guys are much better at attracting girls and are more likely to be the guy they will send nudes and have sex with by the third date. Even a lot of the virgin girls prefer an experienced guy over a virgin guy.
As a girl, having a reputation for sleeping around will cause guys to approach them primarily for sex. Like if they hear she is the type who offers easy no strings attached sex, other guys will try to get the same deal. However if she sleeps around discreetly it won't affect her as much.
Morally it seems wrong but that's just freakin' sexist , why can't she be more experienced? For a guy to be more experience he's gon' need a girl to do that and that girl will count him too as an experience so then what? She should not have been with him for the sake of experience? Then how is He gon' be more experience if all girls restricted themselves so they can be the less experienced? You slept with her which gives you more experience along with her too but you now want some who's mes experienced? If y'all want someone who's less experience then you better gain experience from your guy friends coz who's gon' want the girl you experienced with if you don't want someone like her for her experience? Kmt.. its stupid thing really and will never work because the balance ain't right unless you're willing to be with your buddy for experience.
I think it is an advantage for both sides having experienced and knowing what you want and like and what not.
But according to the outdated sexist society rules, it is an advantage for guys, because having a cock and being able to insert it into multiple holes is a power of sign. That is why college boys always talk about who they fucked and how they fucked. On the other hand, according to the same logic, if a woman has more than even 2 partners, their future partners or possible boyfriends judge them and put them into the category of being a slut because you know women sexuality is a taboo... Illogical bullshit but your friend is right, correctly explaining the logic of the society, or some religious people who support celibacy (somehow celibacy just for women)... I hope you get my message.
Women are judged more harshly for having had multiple partners, while men are often praised for it. I've met men who refused to date women who had had more than three partners before them, and felt that there was nothing wrong with it. The way I see it, the more experienced we are, the better we can please our partners and know what we find pleasing. How many people we've been with is just another inconsequential number.
I do think the less partners a woman has the better for men. Hence why they dont want to know your body count or whom youve been with its a primal instinct. For women we too care how many people youve been with and what kind of people. like for us sexuality matters so we care about these things more than body count unless its ridiculous
I think there's truth to it. Say there's a guy and a girl. They both have slept with 20 people. I'm almost certain that more guys will have an issue with the girl's number than girls will have with the guy's number.
It might be true but it's something I think we should be working to reverse. After all, if a male bachelor is sexually experienced, that implies that he left a lot of women behind during his conquests. It doesn't seem fair to hold that against the women he left behind.
Not necessarily. There are plenty of us guys who do want a woman who has some kind of experience. I wouldn't want to go to bed with a girl who has no idea what to do or is frightened of it. And I don't think guys really care about how many partners a woman has as much as people say. I think for most guys as long as they've had some kind of sexual experience period, it doesn't really matter how many partners she's had. You've both done it, so numbers don't really validate or invalidate experience.
I think its true to an extent. A while ago I asked a question about how many sex partners guys and girls wanted in their partner before them. Predictably, guys said 0, while girls answers ranged from 0-5 partners. So I think there's some truth to guys being more desirable if they have experience, but experience only means a few partners and not a high number.
True because most of the time girls want a man with experience while men want a girl with the least number of sexual partners possible.
It's true. You can argue that these advantages aren't that big. I'd say the most pronounced is that as guys get older, a lack of experience is a problem.
For women, being waaaaay too experienced is viewed as a drawback.
Most women as they get older become less and less tolerant of men who don't know what they're doing. You'll see them here sleep with a guy once and decide to dump him because it wasn't good. They assume the guys they are around are 'finished goods'.
"Being sexually experienced is an advantage for guys, but a hindrance for girls." More or less true, regardless of whether or not that's the way it should be ethically that saying applies because it demonstrates value for both sexes.
Sex for men is difficult, so getting lots of it means many women have chosen you.
Sex for women is easy, so having few sexual partners demonstrates that only the best are chosen by you.
SUCKS for all of us but that's how it is.
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