A friend of mine (who admittedly counts among the more experienced guys) said this during a conversation a while back - that when dating, guys are better off if they've had several partners and sexual encouters in the past, thus being more experienced in dealing with potential sexual partners, but that this trait is undesirable in girls, putting them in a disadvantage. I didn't agree initially - people don't generally ask their dates how many partners they have had before them (or so I think). But maybe, as a 22-year old virgin, I'm a prime example of this pattern. What do you think?
Most Helpful Girl
Boys like your friend only think that because experienced women can tell who actually sucks in bed and who doesn't. Experience and knowledge is power, even in the bedroom and customarily men like to dominate (often but not always) and some like to let the girl take charge. An experienced girl will know more about sex and if he's tending to her needs equally or if he's just doing what gets him off and not really caring how satisfied she is in the end. Experience isn't a hindrance because "we" will know better.0
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Most Helpful Guy
As a guy you are MUCH better off being experienced. Most girls see virgin guys as pathetic, so much so its used as a random insult. Like on gag if a guy is saying something that girls find offensive they will say something like "I bet you're still a virgin" even though it had nothing to do with whit the conversation. That fact it is so quickly used as an insult tells me its something that has a negative connotation.
If you're experienced therebis nothing for them to use to insult you. You never see girls insult a guy by saying "I bet you get laid all the time". Its kinda funny, I have seen girls try to accuse guys who sleep around of not being able to get laid. Its almost like they want it to be true. Like if a guy has a bad attitude they want to create the narrative of him being a virgin even if the opposite is true.
Anways, experienced guys are much better at attracting girls and are more likely to be the guy they will send nudes and have sex with by the third date. Even a lot of the virgin girls prefer an experienced guy over a virgin guy.
As a girl, having a reputation for sleeping around will cause guys to approach them primarily for sex. Like if they hear she is the type who offers easy no strings attached sex, other guys will try to get the same deal. However if she sleeps around discreetly it won't affect her as much.1