We were together for 3 years and broke up a year and a half ago. Not on bad terms, but we don't talk anymore.
I guess this "not over him" feeling kinda comes and goes in waves. I had crushes after we broke up, but every time it doesn't work out with the crush I kinda go back to having feelings for my ex back. 6 months ago I met a guy and dated him for 4 months. I was completely in love with him, I was head over heels! I was sure my ex is gone from my heart for good. But then that guy turned out to be an asshole and I had to dump him. And what do you know, I'm back at thinking about my ex again.
Why is this happening? Is this gonna keep happening every time it doesn't work out with a guy and until I meet another one?
Most Helpful Guy
It is certainly possible since that seems to be the trend with your relationships currently. Hopefully you will find the one who erases that and does not turn out to be an asshole soon0
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I think this is normal to feel this way. You dated him for 3 years, it's hard to go from seeing and talking to him a lot for 3 years to not talking at all. I think it's also normal to miss and ex when you have a relationship that isn't working out.
You are probably just wishing you could find someone who has that same connection with you. It will happen! Trust me!
I have been trying for a long time to meet a guy. I've been in several bad relationships and have had some guys I have dated in the meantime as well. A lot of them don't work. Either they start out great, then lose interest, or they don't work out because they just aren't right for you. It gets frustrating, you feel lonely and it really does suck!
I've been in that place many times. But i'm sure you will find someone. You're not undateable, you are meeting guys and you have had relationships in the past. You will find another guy :)
The reason it's taking so long is because you are being selective. And that's a good thing! Don't settle for a guy who isn't going to treat you right. Find one who you can feel comfortable with. He is out there and he is looking for you!0