I don't expect a guy to pay for me, but I just wanted to know if this is something a guy does when he's not really into you? Just want to know the reasoning behind it
Most Helpful Guy
Any guy who doesn't pay for a first date is an idiot. Women are attracted to providers, regardless that they can afford to pay for themselves, so not paying only kills the romantic vibe. Even if she's intellectually ok with paying for herself, emotionally she will be more guarded against you because estrogen makes women attracted to providers. If you don't want to pay for an expensive dinner then here's and idea... don't take her to an expensive dinner!
I always meet at a coffee shop for a first date. I'll even get there early so i already have my coffee and she buys her own. We chat for an hour two, then leave and walk around and maybe grab a cheap snack and chat some more. If everything goes well we go for a drive and do some fun cheap or free activity.
3-4 hours into the date and if things are going well we'll have kissed, and then if I like her we'll go out for a late dinner and drinks for $30 at most. If things haven't gone well then I take her back to her car and say goodbye.
As a man it's your job to set the tone. If you make her pay for yourself, then the tone you set is that you don't provide for her. It may seem logical to split, but the first step to being successful with women is knowing that a woman responds to positive emotions, not logic. A woman will want another date with you if being with you makes her feel good. If being with you feels like a business transaction or a friends night out, she won't.1
Most Helpful Girl
Either he pays or I pay. Unless we are close friend, I don't like the 50/50 concept5