I rarely pursue a guy unless I totally have the hots for him. I'm wondering if it's a turn off if I were to pursue this guy... We had matched on tinder (I'm 22, he's 26) and talked very little, I responded terribly late to some messages as did he, and at the end he agreed he definitely would like to talk somewhere else, but when I asked where, he deleted his tinder completely. Because I know his brother's girlfriends' brother, I know of him and have had a crush on him for years (but never have we met nor have I seen him in person). Would it be creepy to add him on Facebook now, since I know his fb? We only have one mutual friend which is his ex girlfriend, which is kinda weird too. I just really don't want to miss my chance with this guy... He seems like the quiet reserved shy guy, and I'm all about it. I believe he deleted his tinder bc it wasn't his thing but I guess he didn't feel the need to give me his number before. I feel like because I have a really pretty face a lot of guys think I'm messing with them when I'm not, too. I responded late to his messages to not appear too into him.. And now I feel like it was a mistake. I'm really a kind person and I just want to get to know this guy.
I'd get off social media and just ask to be introduced. When you go to meet him, wear something classy and sexy. Smile, laugh, lots of eye contact, touch him occasionally, and just flirt. Let him come to you.
This may help. Pay esp attention to the equal investment paradigm:
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I don't think that guys in general are turned off by a woman pursuing them. It would actually take a lot of pressure/risk off their own backs, after all.
I asked my boyfriend out and though he was initially shocked, it all worked out in the end.
Should you add this guy on FB, though? I'm not so sure. I mean... he did delete his Tinder. It could've been for reasons separate from you but if he had actual intentions to keep in touch with you and actual meet up in rl, I'm sure he would've gotten the idea to give you his number or some other way to keep in touch before deleting.