My best friend and I are very very close to each other. We've been best friends for 5 years and have a very strong and deep emotional connection, we've been there for each other when we had to go through hell and back. We often talk about how we think each other would be the perfect boyfriend/girlfriend, and we always get mistaken for a couple when we hang out. We have a lot of physical contact for best friends too, handholding, snuggling, constant hugs, resting head on shoulders, etc. And we also call each other things like love, hun, darling, and then cute nicknames. I never really considered dating her in the past but something has seriously changed, now I really really want her to be mine. I always have loved her and now I just find it hard to hold back.
But I'm confused as to what I should do. I want to date her, and we actually just talked a 'what if we dated' thing and she said she totally thought it would work and that we would handle it really well. I just want to have an honest conversation with her admitting that I do have feelings for her, but not put pressure for a relationship. I'd be perfectly fine just keeping things the way they are but I just gotta know if she would consider something more.
... Should I try... or...
girls how would you feel if your best friend admitted he liked you?
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This kind of thing happens all the time. It’s practically a right of passage for a young man. But it certainly is natural for a boy to fall in love with his best friend.
If a man finds his female friend attractive, he will always be curious about taking it to the next level. It just makes sense; you care for her, you love being with her and you’re attracted to her.
I must break some news. There is no way you can get over someone when you still have hope that they might come around. So, I suggest that you enlighten her with your feelings and face the results, whatever they might be.
Let me settle your stomach by letting you know that you are not risking everything. In fact, my best friend made a move on me once and while it was extremely awkward for about two weeks, once the boundaries of our friendship were re-established it went right back to normal. Today we are closer than ever.
Rather than go in for an uninvited kiss, try talking to her about your feelings. First establish that you have no expectations of her to reciprocate your feelings. With no pressure over her head she is more likely to listen to you with an open heart.
Wishing you the best of luck.0