My best friend and I are very very close to each other. We've been best friends for 5 years and have a very strong and deep emotional connection, we've been there for each other when we had to go through hell and back. We often talk about how we think each other would be the perfect boyfriend/girlfriend, and we always get mistaken for a couple when we hang out. We have a lot of physical contact for best friends too, handholding, snuggling, constant hugs, resting head on shoulders, etc. And we also call each other things like love, hun, darling, and then cute nicknames. I never really considered dating her in the past but something has seriously changed, now I really really want her to be mine. I always have loved her and now I just find it hard to hold back.
But I'm confused as to what I should do. I want to date her, and we actually just talked a 'what if we dated' thing and she said she totally thought it would work and that we would handle it really well. I just want to have an honest conversation with her admitting that I do have feelings for her, but not put pressure for a relationship. I'd be perfectly fine just keeping things the way they are but I just gotta know if she would consider something more.
... Should I try... or... girls how would you feel if your best friend admitted he liked you?
This kind of thing happens all the time. It’s practically a right of passage for a young man. But it certainly is natural for a boy to fall in love with his best friend.
If a man finds his female friend attractive, he will always be curious about taking it to the next level. It just makes sense; you care for her, you love being with her and you’re attracted to her.
I must break some news. There is no way you can get over someone when you still have hope that they might come around. So, I suggest that you enlighten her with your feelings and face the results, whatever they might be.
Let me settle your stomach by letting you know that you are not risking everything. In fact, my best friend made a move on me once and while it was extremely awkward for about two weeks, once the boundaries of our friendship were re-established it went right back to normal. Today we are closer than ever.
Rather than go in for an uninvited kiss, try talking to her about your feelings. First establish that you have no expectations of her to reciprocate your feelings. With no pressure over her head she is more likely to listen to you with an open heart.
You should admit your feelings for her, definitely. Maybe she's unsure of your feelings and afraid to talk about it. I would be with my best guy friend if he told me that, I like him and be behave as a couple as well and are very intimate just as you are, and if not even more but I'm afraid to ask him because we are "brother and sister" but let me tell you, brother and sister don't lie together in bed and kiss each other's neck... So, go for it, you have nothing to lose!
DUDE you have to tell her! Your so lucky mate that you two agree that it might work out. Once a freind has feelings for the other the pain of being love sick will only eat away at you until you take the chance and let her know. I sadly went through that with my close female freind last year. I honestly wish that I had talked to her about it first before I asked her out. Honestly I thought that she knew that I liked her. I barely went a day without my being teased or asked when we were going out. She felt betrayed by my actions and it took a while but were back to being freinds. The great news is that for you, your not in her freind only zone. She considers you a potential date. You two already have the chemistry and the behaviors for being a couple there. You two just have to get together. You two actually sound like my freind Jake and his girlfreind. They were very close freinds and I joked about them getting together. Go for it your both 17 if it does not work out you two will be back to best buds in no time at all. When you tell her don't pressure her make sure that she knows that those are your feelings and that it is fine if she does not feel that way about you. Also make sure she knows that it will be fine if she only wants to be good freinds. Good luck mate and God bless you two.
I'd say it would be risky to ask a best friend out so if you want to take the risk you can knowing that things could get awkward but with your specific story-she seems interested in you too and both of you have talked about those certain things like dating and she was serious with you that you would be a great partner of hers. Therefore, I would say go for it!!! Now how you do that, that's another question to be asked (You want my opinion on that too just ask and I'd be more than happy to help)
Don't tell her anything. In stead show her. Ask her out, spend time just the two of you, do all the flirty stuff you'd do with an actual girlfriend. Don't tell her anything until you see she's also having feelings for you and can't act "just friendly". Aaand then you give her the best kiss you can come up with. No words needed. Trust me.