I'm in love with a corpse. I say corpse because this girl has absolutely no life in her soul. She sits in class and draws all day. She never speaks unless a response is absolutely necessary. She remains under the radar at all times. I've barely spoken to her before. This one time during lunch I saw her sitting in the art room humming to herself while painting and honestly at that moment with her messy hair up in a bun, her frowning features, her soft voice, her paint-stained hands and face - at that very moment - I swear I fell in love. I could literally feel my hearth throbbing in my throat. How could such a beautiful person hide herself away? I tried my best to get to know her but she shows no emotions nor does she make an effort to reply in detail. Her responses are short and abrupt. After some borderline-stalker-ish research - I found out that she was abused as a child and has developed some form of distance between herself and reality. At this point I'm so infatuated with her that I want to breathe in every atom of her existence. I can't deal. She is driving me crazy. How do I get over this girl? I've tried dating other girls but my mind keeps straying back to her.
Most Helpful Girl
She's been hurt by loved ones, misunderstood as an artist and is afraid to really talk to too many people. Her self-esteem can be really low, like mine was when I was in my goth phase. By hiding away, she can stay in her comfort zone... alone. <3 :'( She might not believe she is beautiful or anyone would like her... if the ones who "loved her" acted as if she was worthless and garbage. She could definitely be depressed...
HOW TO GET OVER HER?
Just know, it will take forever for her to realize how great she is... by that time, she might be in college... I don't want to sound like a snob... but my self-esteem was pretty HORRIBLE in high school... and wasn't too good until my 2nd year of college... Now I'm on top of the world. But... it took like 3 years to get my self esteem back!!! I still don't have much confidence with my abilities at times :/
She views people as creatures that will bring her down. Her father could have put so much fear into her that she sees all guys as monsters. Maybe her mother was so selfish and didn't take time to tell her daughter she was gorgeous!! If this girl doesn't love herself, how will she appreciate the love you could give her? She won't... and she won't understand why you like her--if she thinks she is worth nothing/ugly! She is forever a lost soul until she finds herself and what makes her feel good about herself/beautiful!!! <3 You can't fix a broken girl until she fixes the pieces of her heart :')1
Most Helpful Guy
You've got an infatuation with her -- your mind/imagination fills in the blanks about her, and in this case there's a whole lot of blanks since she barely speaks.
That said, you could try pursuing this girl. If she rejects you, it'll probably make it easier to move on, if she doesn't, that should make you pretty happy.
Since she's an extreme recluse, you'll probably have to be extremely forward. It might help to take a genuine interest in her artwork and use that as a conversation subject. Then try to go to asking her out in a very fun and easy-going way if she shows any liveliness.0
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