it honestly feels like pulling teeth as if I'm pandering to girls I've never met and I have very little interest because none of them are being themselves... I might as well be talking to Siri.
it's a combination of frustration and humiliation, I just keep getting blown off when I do find girls that are interested or at least entertaining the notion of going out - like I wouldn't say I'm a model but I'm definitely not ugly.
I feel like I should dye my hair green and just be like "fuck it, none of you want to be with me so I don't want to be with you".
- easy - like playing duke nukem in God mode...8% (4)6% (2)7% (6)Vote
- Moderate - I have to put in effort but I wouldn't say I'm struggling...45% (23)26% (9)37% (32)Vote
- Hard - let's put it this way, if dating was water and I was lost in the desert... I would have died a long time ago35% (18)37% (13)36% (31)Vote
- Fuck dating (I don't want to explain but again - fuck dating)12% (6)31% (11)20% (17)Vote
Most Helpful Girl
The roulette wheel of dating sucks, for sure. I'm always so relieved to find someone to be with so I can stop the nonsense.
You may find an attitude change helpful, though. Look at these dates/encounters s adventures and try to find the lighter side. My most disastrous dates are some of my funniest stories :)
Hang in there and don't give up.2
Most Helpful Guy
I think moderate but it might be influenced by culture: I'm in Japan where I feel like the difficulty level is "moderate" for me (I somehow seem to be more attractive to Japanese and European women than American women, probably because I have some of those boyish Japanese looks and not the macho kind of popular American look).
In the U. S. I thought it was more difficult and really had to be more aggressive there. Actually I think the U. S. is the highest difficulty.
That said, even in Japan, I'd say my odds of getting a girl to agree to go on a date with me are like 5%, as in one in twenty women or so will agree. I just went aggressive and kept moving to the next attractive girl and next attractive girl till I got lucky. It also helps to kind of look at yourself as objectively as possible in the virtual mirror (not just looks) and see what you can change about yourself to boost your general sex appeal among women. Doing that helped me a lot, especially when I changed to become a far more social creature who is independent and assertive.1
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