Generally I reached a level where I don't let relationships get to a broken state anymore by learning how to deescalate conflicts quickly with a stoic mindset. That and I tended to pick women who didn't push my buttons.
But if I imagine I was in a brokenhearted state when younger, and I was given another chance for some reason, and combined it with some of what I learned over the years, I'd probably do everything I can to be enjoyable company to the woman. I'd avoid all drama, avoid dwelling on apologies, mostly just make sure we have a good time together and enjoy and miss each other's company -- with or without sex.
I don't know how taking things slow will help but i do know a few things... though its possible for one person to cause strife, it takes two to repair the relationship. Both sides have to be willing to: a. isolate the problem (s) b. individually come up with possible solutions c. compare solutions and compromise differences d. learn from the experience so it doesn't repeat itself. e. try to keep sex away until the problem has been taken care of. I don't mean to be sexist but in many cases i usually hear the woman go "im going to fix our relationship"... i usually just classify that relationship doomed. Not just one person can fix it, and to be honest the methods of "fixing" the relationship that I've heard of were astounding. They were worse than the original problem itself. Two people, open-mindedness and a willingness to compromise and any relationship can be fixed.
Communication and honesty are all you need to fix a relationship. Solid facts dispel any pessimistic notions in your partners head. My advice is you dont cut down a tree by cutting down every twig and branch and then the trunk. You go straight for the trunk amd the rest gets taken care of. Find the root problem and deal with it and the rest will sort itself out. People nowadays micromanage crap they dont have to worry about. They drive themselves nuts. The sex thing will sort itself if the 2 of you know where you stand with each other
You want to repair a relationship? Fix yourself [mind and body (maybe)], Then help your spouse. Figure out what you both need do. Don't ever mention "let's take a break" a. k. a excuse to cheat lol. Sex is a concern but it's the 3rd priorité in my book, can always help each other with that.
I think you are good, together, or not. Nothing about 'repair' because by that point, you just aren't together, and it is over. Only long-term marriages can, might, maybe, be 'repaired', depending on the issues. . . Never been married, and all the ones I know have divorced and not reconciled.
Honestly, I don't think 'taking things slow' fixes things. The relationship needs both people's needs to be met to be 'fixed' if it was ever there. And if either of those people's needs includes commitment, or sex, then the 'fix' needs to include commitment and enthusiastic sex.
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