I've been dumped by two women within the past 2 months because "I'm too good for them" or "they don't deserve me". It breaks my heart to lose women because they say that. Are they actually meaning it? What am I doing wrong?
Assuming the conversation shown is one you had with a woman whom you were dating, that could be part of the reason why they say they don't deserve you. A lot of people don't want to be with someone who's always being down on themselves. Have confidence in yourself, accept that they find you perfect because to them in that moment you are perfect. Don't repeatedly say that you aren't perfect because that gets old real quick and can start to influence a person's decision and how they feel about you. It's simple psychology, you tell someone something for long enough and they'll start to believe it. I had a boyfriend who would always say he's not perfect and amazing and kept comparing himself to my ex and saying that my ex is better than him. Soon I started to believe it and he became a hassle to talk to because he was always down on himself when we would talk, and it started to make me feel down too. So basically to sum this all up, DON'T BE DOWN ON YOURSELF! BE CONFIDENT! LOVE YOURSELF!
Since you are 19 years old, I am gonna consider that the girls you've been dating are teenagers.
Teenage girls think differently than a mature one.
Their feelings are there the one moment, the other moment they are with someone, they like you, but they like Justin Bieber too, you are the love of their life but they would love to do date that other guy too.
Doesn't make any sense right? Can't blame it either, don't waste your time in wrapping your head around such girls, ones that are interested and are truly invested, don't go with cheap lines like these.
They probably do think you're a nice guy but you're boring or uninteresting. Or you try too hard. Or you come off as desperate to please. None of those things are attractive and only serve to make the object of your affection feel guilty. Try just being a decent dude without being over the top with the romance. Focus on getting to know her and having a good time together instead of trying to impress her or spoil her.
It is a pathetic and dishonest way of telling a person that you are not interested. It is as pathetic as women lying about having a boyfriend to reject someone. They clearly lacked interest in you and they thought this is the way to not hurt your feelings. But being upfront and telling people that you dont think they compatible or suitable for each other is much better than hiding behind a lie.
They might be fucking other guys on the side and probably realised they ain't feeling you in that way so tryna take the cowards way out and make you think they leaving you cos your so great. If they thought you were so great, they wouldn't leave.
These women ain't worth your pondering and wondering.
Throw them out of your mind like Kleenex to the dustbin!
There are thin lines between being modest and self-deprecating. Seems to me these girls are lacking in self-esteem (or probably adding onto the whole "no interest" thing). If I were you, I'd look for someone who takes the compliment for once 😂 Just keep being your sweet-seeming self.
I don't deserve you sounds like "I treat people like shit and I can't do that to you because either a) my conscience won't allow it because you are a genuinely lovely guy, or b) You don't have anything to offer me that I want.
Brother, you're doing nothing wrong.. don't ever assume you're doing something wrong by being yourself, you're worth more than that. Don't ever hold back because you think she wants it, be you and go through the wrong ones till the right one doesn't leave mate and that will be your match dude.
Bullshit - they're likely bored. If you're too much like them, and too much supplicating to them, they'll have no respect - instant friend zone. Read the first two year's blogs at TheRationalMale. com and then get back to us.