There's a new guy I'm dating that I really like and could see him becoming my boyfriend soon. However, when we talk, he frequently looks down at my boobs and then back to my eyes. I know that's something guys do and I don't mind, but when I jokingly called him out for it last night, he denies that's what he was doing. I asked what did he keep looking down at if not my boobs and he said he didn't know. My friend said that if he can't even fess up to doing it, then that's not a good sign. I thought maybe he was just shy about it. He had one major girlfriend the whole time he was in college (4 years) and she was his first kiss and first all that and then besides her, has only dated a couple of girls on a few casual dates (nothing serious). He's 24 by the way and says he's ready for something serious again
Most Helpful Guy
I don't see how it's a red flag at all. Maybe he's kind of a "gentleman"? (I realize that sounds odd in the context of being caught looking at boobs).
Tricky part is that some girls think sexual desire is equivalent to solely sexual desire. For us guys, being romantically interested in a girl is often totally blurry with being sexually interested. But if we get caught checking out a girl's boobs or something, she might end up feeling like we see her as nothing more than a pair of boobs. So it's a delicate subject matter.
Anyway, as abc3643 wisely suggested, if you tell him it's okay, he'll probably feel quite relieved.0
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Most Helpful Girl
Sounds like he's just shy about it. It's like getting caught doing something you "shouldn't be" so your first instinct is to be like "WHAAAAT NOO... I'M NOT!" plus you approached it in a joking manner, so he probably didn't think you were that serious so he could get away with just being like "HAHA NO". I feel like your friend is jumping to conclusions way too fast.1