I'm actually a very romantic guy. And never tried to hook up with someone for fun, but I tend to end up being the passage way for girl s asking the situation of my friends. In my life I had 3 crushes, that ironically crushed me. Am I the only one with this luck? I know I'm smart, I've been told I'm reasonably attractive and I can handle my own life pretty well. So what the hell is wrong with me?
Most Helpful Girl
Have you tried approaching girls your interested in? The only way you will find a relationship if you talk to girls who you think are interesting, get their number/facebook and see where it takes you. For all you know you could meet your match through one of their friends? You don't have to limit yourself to just one person, but get a lot of girls who you find interesting. The important thing here is to remember that nothing is set in stone; don't think too far ahead but just go with the flow. If you feel like you guys hit it off really well; ask her out on a date after 4 days to a week of texting her or talking to her. It's just a trial and error routine :)1
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Most Helpful Guy
I used to go through a similar problem. I've got a girlfriend now so its hard to say if I fixed the problem or just got lucky and found the right girl. But when I look back on it I do have a few ideas about where I used to go wrong.
When I did start getting hookups and actually getting girls to be sexual with me it was around the time I quit masturbating.
I know it sounds odd but I really think there is something to it. I did not relieve myself for a month and I found that after that I was walking around with a loaded cannon so to speak. I think the tension actually subconsciously gave me a lot more a sexual vibe when talking to women and kept me out of the friend zone.
Being romantic is nice but romance alone puts you very close to the friend zone. You also need to be forward about the fact that you want to take that woman to bed and you are not ashamed to say so. Women don't consider it a bad thing when a guy wants to have them. You can still be polite and masculine while putting out a sexual vibe.0