My boyfriend messaged me and told me he and his 2 other friends were rating me and another girl.
I know "Don't ask a question if you're not ready for the real answer." But, I was ready even if it hurt or not.
I know he wasn't gonna lie to me. He didn't. He gave me a straight up answer. He said I was an average 8.6 and the other girl got a 9.
Yeah, I was pretty upset even if I was.4 under that girl. Yes. 8 is a pretty high rating but, it sucks to know the guy I look at as a 10/10 rates me as an 8.6.
Later that night we talke about why he rated me lower, and he said it was based off "things"
He also told me he sees me as a 10/10 but, if I knew the scale I would understand why he gave me an 8.6.
Why would he say that? Or lie to me? Did he lie just to make me feel better? I know some things guys rate. Based on body wise. But, is it okay for a guy to rate his girlfriend?
Its a silly think to be upset over but, everytime I look in the mirror now I'm gonna look for the thing that made me.4 less then the other girl.
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It's never okay for a guy to rate his girlfriend. Honestly, he's an immature idiot if you ask me and all this situation proves is that teen dating is honestly really dumb most times. Your boyfriend should have never told you he was rating you in the first place. I know this seems like something that could easily be brushed under the bed, but it's really hurtful to rate people and can cause a lot of self-esteem issues. Your boyfriend was really inconsiderate. Yes, you shouldn't have asked if you weren't prepared to hear the answer, but at the same time, you never wold have asked if he hadn't told you he was rating you in the first place. When I was younger, I may have tolerated that shit, but after dealing with a ton of shithead guys like that, I've realized that i don't have time to let an immature guy make me feel like I'm less than.
I am friends with this couple who've been together since their end of sophomore year of HS. You know what the boyfriend will always say whenever the question comes up about who is he thinks is pretty? He always says his girlfriend is the prettiest girl ever. He never fails to say that. Even when his girlfriend isn't around, he still always says she's the most beautiful to him. He also doesn't do the rate system. Him, his girlfriend, and I have all just graduated high school. The fact that he was in HS and didn't use the rate system is great. It means that it's not necessary nor do all boys use the rate system. Only assholes (in my opinion) would answer that question to their girlfriend.
With my ex, while he wasn't the hottest guy on the planet, he was perfect in my eyes. I loved everything about him from his smile to his eyes to his hair to just... everything. Of course some guys on here are going to say "He was being analytical and you're being conceited," but it's not about that. I can be analytical as well and see all the flaws in my ex looks wise, but I would never rate him and make him feel like he was less than someone else.
I understand that you'll probably stay with your boyfriend even after this stunt, but I would advise that you take note of this and don't let it slide. You need to raise your standards because no matter how good your boyfriend may treat you, if he could say something like that he doesn't care as much as he might let on.
*****REMEMBER: Your boyfriend brought up him and his friends rating you and another girl to your attention. He did. That's not something you casually mention to a girlfriend. Clearly, he0