I've been dating this guy for a few months now, around 4 and its the longest relationship I've been in. I really think it's the best I've been in too. He makes me happy and treats me right. But for some reason I still think about two ex's in particular who dumped me and hurt my heart so badly. It's like I have these urges to check their social media to see the girls they chose instead of me. And sometimes I'll wish they were still mine, that they chose me instead. But it's been at least 6 months since I dated the last one. On top of that, my boyfriends family makes me feel very unwelcomed in their home, and I've been battling depression and bipolarity for years, and quite recently it's gotten aggressive. The days that I'm more depressed I tend to snap at my boyfriend and give him attitude. It's been happening a lot more recently. Like maybe my meds aren't working, but still. I hate that I think about my ex's still while they've damn well moved on and dont give a shit about me, and I hate that I treat my boyfriend shitty when I'm having mood swings and depressive episodes. He's really the one guy I've dated who's treated me the best, and yet I feel like I'm treating him worse than anyone else I've dated. I don't know what's wrong with me. I love him but I think I'm a terrible girlfriend. What do you think? Anybody?
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I think sometimes we find it diffict to move on from an ex , because we can't let go of the hurt they caused us. Heartbreak is so painful , you become overwhelmed by so many negative emotions
The worst thing to do is check their social media. As long as you have that connection you'll keep your pain raw. The only way to move on from heartbreak is to cut all means of contact and keep active and busy
We cause our own pain by what we choose to think about so every time you find yourself thing about them focus your thoughts onto something else. The quality of our life depends on the quality of our own thoughts.
Maybe you a aren't ready for a new relationship. You can't love again when you haven't let go of the past hurt. You'll only end up hurting yourself more, and your current boyfriend1
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