I think I'm going to take another break from dating. That shit is stressful. Its not necessarily the people its the entire damn system. Like the rules put in place by society that everyone must follow, the whole dating game and the hoops you have to jump through and the timeframe and pace you have to do it in, and you have to do it all in the right sequence and all the damn conditions have to be just right or else you'll ruin everything. I don't understand how people constantly date continuously never taking a break or time for themselves. I wish I could be like those of you who actually think its fun. That's fascinating.
I like getting to know people and I do think dating can be fun at times but over all its too draining for me. Am I weird or what?
--Like the rules put in place by society that everyone must follow, the whole dating game and the hoops you have to jump through and the timeframe and pace you have to do it in, and you have to do it all in the right sequence and all the damn conditions have to be just right or else you'll ruin everything.--
That's how you think about it and that's the problem, too. No rules are set by anyone. There are no obligations, there are agreements. Overall, it's too cynical so it's best if you take time out.
I used to experience a level of anxiety before and during a first and second date. It was not helping the situation. I realized it is all in my head and a different attitude might help.
Now when I go on a first or second date I accept it for what it is and have absolutely no expectations. I no longer try to impress her in any way out of my normal personality as that is where I am the most comfortable.
My overall attitude is before the date begins I really have little to no idea who this person really is. I have no hopes of the date leading to another date and eventually into a relationship. No expectations. Therefore, no stress and no let-downs.
Yes. Personally I feel like I spent more time trying to build/keep the chemistry flowing. Being from NYC a city where most people are always looking for the next upgrade while trying to out " I care less than you" each other dating started to feel a lot more like a competition. Especially when the girl was particularly attractive. I'm going on 2 1/2 years not dating and life has been MUCH less stressful on my mind and wallet
Yes it is. I try and try, and it just gets me nowhere. Then the people that I'm not attracted to, try and talk to me. I just walk kindly reject them and leave. Not gonna fake something if I don't feel anything for them at all. The online dating is worse lol
If a relationship is causing stress it shouldn't go on any further. A relationship lots of trust, respect, loyalty and good connection shouldn't be stressful. In my experience, I had a bad relationship that was very stressful for me.