Would u rather date a successful woman or someone who's not as successful as you are? Why?
So, I just read it in a study that guys don't prefer women who are very successful, career wise, and it kind of didn't go down very well with me since I'm very ambitious and would love to have a nice position one day.
Most men are, but a sizeable minority (I'm one of them) prefers it or doesn't mind. These women tend to be their own worst enemy though: they'll often have impossibly high standards (example: if they make 200k a year they'll only want guys who make at least 200k a year and a guy who's otherwise perfect for them will be rejected for "only" making 150k a year, then they complain about being single and no "good" guys liking them) or choose to be with some placeholder guy they can boss around (and then other guys see she's taken so they won't make a move).
Yes, they are. They are when it comes to me, anyway. I think it's the specific career, though. I tell guys I have a career and they're all 'Oh, awesome! What do you do?' Then I tell them I'm a teacher and I get one of two reactions:
1. Niiiiiiiiiiice, I've always had a teacher fetish
2. Oh, I work in a factory, I'm sure I'm not good enough, let's just be friends.
I don't know why any guy would not like a successful woman, other than he's afraid of being immasculated, but manhood is not all about dominating, in spite of stupid stereotypes.
For example, why would you want a "dumb blonde*" when you can have an intelligent one?
*sorry, this is a stereotype too, but I'm using it to make the point.
The ones who take care of themselves physically tend to be more intelligent anyway, with the odd exceptions. They plan everything in their lives, often in increments of as little as 15 minutes. Stay away from one that extreme, as she doesn't have time for anything but herself basically. However, guys might want to look for the women who use day planners more, they tend to have been top of their class in school or college, and they tend to be healthy anyway.
If they worked hard to get that career then, I wouldn't be intimidated at all. They have my respect to the max. However, if they got that great career just by looking good, then I'd feel a little intimidated. I'd love to date a successful woman, or even one that might be a little less than I. ^^
No but cautious because of an unfair generalization.
While there is nothing wrong with a woman having a career in itself, I find that the vast majority of women who have them are the selfish sorts who would put it before their family and/or be unwilling to be a team player which is what a healthy marriage is about.
So right off the bat, hearing that a woman has a career would raise alarms for me in the same way that unemployment does for women.
Women with careers don't impress me. It's about her character, values, and what she has to offer as a person. Career women seem to think a guy must be intimidated by them just because he's not interested in her, but that's what she needs to think to make herself feel better about it. I need more than that in a woman to really find valuable and date-worthy.
It all comes down to the attitude and energy you bring with it. Ask yourself this. Do you think a guy would have a problem if a woman was really successful if she was also honest, loyal, caring, fun to be around, open minded, sexy and down to earth?
Many confuse arrogance with confidence and ambition with ego.
I'm still old fashioned (much like the girls nowadays that still don't inititate a conversation with a guy they like, because they think it's still the 18th century and that us guys should approach them first) and the only thing that I would be, as you write "intimidated by" is if my monthly paycheck had a lower figure on it than hers; since I consider myself the head of the family and the guy that's supposed to be the breadwinner
That's just something women tell themselves to make them feel better about being single.
Guys don't care and if anything prefer somebody who is successful. Typically, it's women who won't date down and that's why guys don't actively pursue those women. Most women date up financially wise and don't give other men a chance.
i will keep it simple more successful than me no thanks. less successful than me no thanks. about the same yes thanks.
That depends entirely on witch one is harder on my pocket and expects me to do more work. ie with miss success do i have to match her lifestyle gifts etc
and with miss not so successful do I have to cover her half of the rent and her food if we move in together.
Basically if I was lucky enough to be choosing between 2 girls that liked me i'd be thinking. Is she horny and what does and might she do in bed, do we get on, is she hot, is this going to be expensive or negatively affect my career, does she have a crazy ex or unwelcoming and threatening family members? So it would depend how her earning more affected those things.