I am a female, 20, and I know that I want a boyfriend. But every time I have the opportunity, I find something about him that I just don't like, and I obsess over it until I don't like him anymore. It can be something SO dumb, like he has a gummy smile. I feel like if he isn't my picture perfect image in my head, he isn't what I want. Which is so awful, and I know it. But I know I want a boyfriend and I know that I'm too picky. I just don't know what I can do about it. And on this topic, where do people who don't go out and party all the time find people? Like I literally have no idea. No one ACTUALLY meets men in coffee shops do they? I've tried.
Most Helpful Guy
You don't lower your standards you lower your expectations5
Most Helpful Girl
you have to get to know them beyond the superficial. be their friend before you even consider them as lovers. do you judge your friends so harshly? I bet you don't. Best way is to not think about the things you don't like about them, don't entertain those thoughts. You're choosing to pick out imperfections, just ignore them. Trust me, those things are not dealbreakers... I fell for a guy I never thought I could like. Coincidently he had a gummy smile :D and a terrible personality and he was skinny and lanky, seriously didn't think I could ever like someone like that. No one is perfect until you fall in love with them..
As for meeting guys, you should try volunteering somewhere that interests you, that way you can meet some young people with the same passions as you. Or if you can't afford to volunteer, get a job where a lot of young people work. Also, if you don't like clubs and loud partying, you can always go to a live music bar, those are awesome places, sometimes you can spot a loner and talk to them. Blues/piano bars are great for that or any kind of music that you're into is a great bonding point.0