not sure if this is a parallel universe or what is going on. One thing i seem to realize with bother genders, is that a person who is a good person honest loyal great is always abused used devalued or treated like crap- whether its a girl or a guy. People who are beautiful or amazing, are treated lower than dirt, while people who are average cheaters liars crappy dishonest or bipolar are treated really well. I go on dates with men who complain they can't even get a date online! Women play games with them- no one meets up with them, women treat them like crap, are racist, rude etc. Yet here i am--stunningly beautiful--really down to earth, super cool not judgmental, laid back nice sweet smart, sitting here on a date with them, and theyre not trying to impress me, be nice to me, treat me well- most of the time they either treat me like crap, are rude to me, weird, or end the date fast. Wait a second here- you can't even get a date, and you meet a super pretty female who is so nice to you and you treat her like crap? seriously.. wtf is going on here? some of these people watch me eat my food like im a weirdo. Make me feel guilty for even eating. Make me feel awkward. I'm the one who has to be nice to them, entertain them. These same men if they met any other woman would treat her with respect even if she was a total b*tch. Many make me feel weird or try to put me down.. i met a man once- an old man, who was bragging about how he got women at the gym. I think he was 70- skinny as hell, wrinkled. HUH? he's GETTING WOMEN at the gym? im a hot woman and I dont get anyone at the gym? Why are ugly old people bragging about getting women, but beautiful women not bragging about gettign men... wtf is going on here? it seems like ugly creepy weird people can get anyone they want are treated well, but good people aren't? every psycho guy i know or girl can get anyone they want-- but every good person i know gets rejected and abused.
I think it is a Zen challenge, to those of us with integrity, sympathy, and good values!! All these people are there to challenge our own personal beliefs, to see if we give in, and submit, and become them, or maintain our beliefs, values and integrity, and move on toward 'Enlightenment'. Read about the Dali Lama, and things he has said, and know that holding true to your values and integrity will always be the best course!
God knows I wish I knew the answer to this. I ask myself all the time; I've seen it and experienced it myself. It's like decent people always get the short end of things while the dishonest, liars, cheaters, and just all around shitty people seem to get pretty much rewarded for their behavior. The best explanation I've gotten is that it's because they're the ones willing to do "what it takes" to get what they want. I don't know.
I know this is written out of bitterness but calling yourself stunningly beautiful and basically an amazing person is a turn off. I do agree a lot of people put up with the other person in the relationship treating them like absolute shit. It's kind of their partner who treats the other one well or like shit. Depends how they're wired, if they're aware of someone being a complete dick, or if they think aspects of it are attractive.
"Yet here i am--stunningly beautiful--really down to earth, super cool not judgmental, laid back nice sweet smart, sitting here on a date with them"
Judging yourself in all these categories isn't that accurate, things are subjective. For example some guys have seen some kind of Jersey Shore abomination from the depths of the sea with 5 pounds of makeup and the orange sheen of an Orangutans fur and I just do not agree. Someone may seem nice to people, someone may see through a guise, or even believe they see through a guise that doesn't exist. I know plenty of people who put up with very shitty girlfriends/boyfriends. I'll never understand why they think it's such a good idea, some people try to treat others like shit in the hopes they believe it and don't try to find someone better.
Either way instead of worrying about some 70 year old man, for whatever reason...
Think about if what you're saying is putting guys off, are you talking about yourself 90% of the time to entertain them or?
If not I guess you're just unlucky and every date you have is with a dick.
You're better than most women. Men are just treating you as if you are most women. Not our fault your gender is fucked. Maybe you women should have thought about that before you started supporting sluts and reproductive rights that include abortion.
I think what it is , is you have a huge ego and are very self centered... that makes people not want to be around you. It's fine to have confidences, but right now how you're explaining yourself, you sound like a vain bitch. Just being honest.
I would really like to know this myself, but my bosses theory is that people see niceness as a sign of weakness. The nicer you are, the more they will try to step on you. If you're meaner to them, then I guess they tend to have more respect for you? It's weird.