Hiya, so today I was just wondering why when I get chatting to a guy on a dating website, he asks me to talk on another website, another app, by e-mail etc. instead.
I'm talking about free dating websites (not ones where he has to pay to send me a message or whatever).
It has happened a few times now and I'm honestly confused as to why men do it.
Usually I just say no and stop talking to him (mostly because I can't be bothered, I'm not going to start using a new website or app just to talk to him).
I'd love to hear why men do this!
Most Helpful Guy
I only ever give my email address to females I really care that much about keeping in touch with, with the intent of getting more focused on just us. Other than that I never ask girls to move to another site. However, I have had several females suggest that we go to Yahoo! Messanger, Kik, Skype, and Instagram. So I'm not sure this is really so much just about guys like you're saying; it's probably that as a female you've experienced it vice versa.1
Most Helpful Girl
This topic is very informative. I've always wondered why guys do this too!
From my point of view it feels like they have malicious intent and they don't want the convo recorded on the dating site because they might be IP banned or something. It's always such a chore to go off site to have a conversation. And the fact they don't explain WHY they want to talk to you through another messaging system makes me suspect something shady is going on.
But now that I'm reading responses from the guys I see it's just a way to find out if we're real or not. Weirdos are often attracted to these websites so I often don't want to give them my personal account because if they turn out to not be what they say they are I can ghost. It also seems too forward to give them a tool to keep tabs on me when I don't know who they are.1