I only ever give my email address to females I really care that much about keeping in touch with, with the intent of getting more focused on just us. Other than that I never ask girls to move to another site. However, I have had several females suggest that we go to Yahoo! Messanger, Kik, Skype, and Instagram. So I'm not sure this is really so much just about guys like you're saying; it's probably that as a female you've experienced it vice versa.
This topic is very informative. I've always wondered why guys do this too!
From my point of view it feels like they have malicious intent and they don't want the convo recorded on the dating site because they might be IP banned or something. It's always such a chore to go off site to have a conversation. And the fact they don't explain WHY they want to talk to you through another messaging system makes me suspect something shady is going on.
But now that I'm reading responses from the guys I see it's just a way to find out if we're real or not. Weirdos are often attracted to these websites so I often don't want to give them my personal account because if they turn out to not be what they say they are I can ghost. It also seems too forward to give them a tool to keep tabs on me when I don't know who they are.
mainly because while guys talk tom girls some other guy might peak your interest and you blo the guy your talking to of or some other guy tries to get between you guys by being more aware of thing you like which ruins it for the guy your talking to.
yeah you dont know each other but talking ona dating site when you have met someone s less one on one and there is more of a chance of you not talking to him. though it can go that way for girls as well when i guy has more than one girl he is talking to. there has to be a way to talk with no distraction from your interest or his interest.
I usually do it as a progression to the next level. It is more personal to chat with text and email. An intermediate step between meeting online and meeting in person. I think most guys are cool with a 'no', and continue using the website's chat if you're not comfortable, and some women are uncomfortable moving onto another form of communication. A man asking for your number for texting is normal after around the 4th communication on the website.
I'm not a guy but my friends have explained this to me. One: he could be slyly asking for your number. That way, if you say no, he didn't ACTUALLY ask for you number and have his ego bruised (guys are weird). Or like Tinder for example, they may not want the notifications on for it because then someone could see it and judge them, but they don't want to constantly check the app every five minutes seeing if you've responded. So if they ask to talk on say, Whatsapp, they can be notified that you messaged them without worrying about someone seeing a dating site notification.