Well I do think women lose some of their leverage after sex but reall, I'd just say that whoever cares the least and has the most options will generally have the most leverage over the other person.
So lets say there's a hot guy named Jason who has lot's of girls chasing him. Sally really wants him and sees him as somewhat out of her league. She wants him more than he wants her AND he has lots of other options for sex so she can't really use the make him wait/use sex as a barganining chip strategy and expect it to work since he has numerous other girls willing to fuck him for free.
Now another guy named Bob who isn't as great with girls develops a crush on Sally and sees her as out of his league. She can probably get him to pay for dates and wait months for sex if she wanted to, while with Jason there was little chance of that happening. She has leverage over Bob before she has sex with him and after. Even when they are in a relationship she can still hold sex over his head as a bargaining chip because she knows he can't easilly get it elsewhere like Jason could.
So power is a combination of when the other person wants you more than you want them and/or you having other similar or better alternatives.
I don't think so. I think chemically the guy has testosterone suppliess before, then after that declines for some time and he gets estrogen and the woman has more testosterone. they snuggle up and at least the woman gets some bonding chemicals, but I think the guy an get things like that... the snuggling time is great. I don't think the guy feels or is more powerful then, at least not much.
So it may be reversed. To a degree, sex "blends" the two. It may very much depend upon the relationship power to begin with, confidence, and how it all goes.
Hmm it depends. I'd say in many situations, this is true, but it doesn't apply to every case. What's certain is that it is rare that it' the man with the power before sex, and the woman with the power after sex.
interesting question... in a normal, healthy relationship, this definitely isn't the case; however, when it comes to friends with benefits or flings, it is very likely true.
for example, we have jack and jill, who have started an f. w. b relationship. after having sex, jill catches feelings for jack and gives him whatever he wants, hoping it will make him fall in love with her. but, because he has no intention of being anything more, he definitely wields power over her in this scenario.
That might be true if you're in a relationship based around sex or without a very healthy power dynamic. (Both individuals should share the 'power' at all times. If anyone is ever 'in charge'... you're fucked.)
Women tend to emotionally engage in sex more. If it's a game then men win overall. If they want a relationship then I think women "have the power" (although I don't agree with either side being dominant)
i think women have the power before sex cause if a women says no that's it there's no argument and men have the power during sex not after... cause the man can cum and just go to bed right after and say i had my nut forget about her.