I don't know if it's just me or if this is just the norm of texting nowadays, but I can never seem to receive messages that are written with proper grammar and spelling by users, in online dating websites. Yet, these are people who claim to be professional, college-educated people such as cops, teachers, even graduate students. I'm a college student myself and I know that none of these people would have ever been able to graduate if they wrote like that in their assignments or e-mails to their professors. Should I take this as a red flag and assume that these are just fake people? Thanks.
Most Helpful Guy
no wats rong with dat? Lol, I wouldn't necessarily think that they were lying if they had poor grammar/spelling, but it's definitely a major turn off. It was acceptable back when phones weren't easy for texting but now it's easy so there's not really any excuse. It really depends on the person too, it's usually easier to gauge their intelligence just by talking to someone, some people.. myself included deliberately don't use proper grammar or spelling when messaging.. Don't ask me why.1
Most Helpful Girl
I understand your issue. The way I look at it, communicating on these websites is similar to applying for a job. The person messaging is interested in knowing more about you and basically selling an idea that he's worth meeting. So when it comes to grammar and spelling, I'm okay with a few typos here and there but when I read something that sounds like it came right off of an old flip phone, it's a touch off putting. It makes me wonder am I really talking to a 30 year old or a 13 year old? I don't expect perfection, but at least have the decency to write like an adult.
For your situation, I can't really tell you because I'm obviously not reading the messages. For me, I'd see it as a yellow flag. But I've communicated with men who own bachelor's degrees that didn't use proper grammar and punctuation in their emails but they turned out to be perfectly normal in person. And I've met with guys that sounded normal in their emails but were scary in person. It's a toss up really. Just note it and proceed with caution.1