"I wish I could say yes because you are a wonderful guy but my instincts say we're not a good match, and I never go against my instincts. I hope you aren't angry because I'd really like to have you as a friend. . . and I hope that doesn't sound too dorky, but it really is how I feel."
Just be honest, and tell him you like him as a friend, but not like that!! If you lead him on, and avoid it, it will only be bad, later!! Like ripping off a band-aid, better just do it quick, and be done with it!
Oh it is definitely possible. 20 years ago was thjs beautiful woman who was 15.5 years older than me, but I didn't know it at the time. I wasn't aggressive, but she shot me down. (Looking back, that was the right thing to do because she was such a free spirit.) Anyway, we knew each other because we both smoked but my hair was longer than average for a guy, so I was "cool". She was cool too having been an on-air radio personality 13 years earlier and I remembered her. Anyway, we became good friends for 3 more years.
Yes, because it was never a real friendship in the first place if one person was feeling as if they wanted to be more than friends. There's nothing wrong with just wanting to be friends so he has to accept that. Just tell him you'd rather just be friends.
Just think about why you are going to reject him... It feels very bad when they do that to you... I'm talking by experience.. Especially if he is really into you.. If he is a cool guy why not give him a chance... Not saying to fall in love with him but maybe he will surprise at the end of the day you make the choice but... It really does suck
Don't worry about the "least amount of pain" part. Just get it over with as quickly and directly as possible. Think of it like ripping off a Band-Aid: Faster stings more, but slower hurts longer, and that's worse.
Every Tom Today is Different. It all depends here, dear. He will either have a Sour ball and All and Not want to 'Still be friends,' or he could be the Kind of Guy that after a good Try, will 'Still' Hang in there and Hope you change your mind By... Being a Friend to the End. Good luck. xx
Me 2 suffering from Same problem...:-( ... i also don like to hurt people... accoriding my xperience... girls should not take that proposal seriously.. we should just laughing... i know it is weird but it works :-D