My boyfriend really, really likes skinny girls, and I mean SKINNY. Told me that everyone thought his ex girlfriend was anorexic, but he was incredibly attracted to her body. He told me all this before we were dating, he would never say any of this now for fear of hurting my feelings. It's making me so insecure. I feel like I'm second rate for him, like if I want to be good enough for him or want him to really be attracted to me I have to lose weight. I'm 5'3 and my weight changes between 125-135 frequently. I like to keep it as low as possible but it's hard. My boyfriend HATES fat people. Like seriously is so disgusted by them it's ridiculous, yet he tells me he loves me no matter my size and will always find me attractive. I talked to him about this and he reassured me that despite liking it he still loves me more than anything and is attracted to me, even if my body isn't his 'type.' He told me he loves my body because it's ME, so he'd love it no matter what. I'm on the brink of developing an eating disorder over this, I don't know what to do.
Most Helpful Guy
Whatever you do, don't do the eating disorder thing. That's not attractive. If there's one universal quality that's attractive, it's being healthy. Besides, he loves you now. Sometimes preferences change over the course of partners we have. Some of this might just be an epic insecurity bubbling up inside of you. If you want you might work out and do some high-intensity training, that's beneficial for all kinds of reasons besides just him, but don't do it for him if you do it, do it for yourself.0
Most Helpful Girl
If you're not naturally skinny, you shouldn't strive to be thin. Your goal should always be to maintain good health, either you'll have to trust your boyfriend when he tells you he thinks you're pretty (would he really want to be with you if he wasn't attracted to you?), or get out of the relationship. But I don't think the guy/your relationship is the problem here, you have to stop being insecure about your body, because it's awesome just the way it is. ❤️ You shouldn't compare yourself to his ex, you're you and he likes you for a reason.0