I met this guy almost two months ago. We live about two hours away from each other but have managed to see each other almost every weekend.3 weeks ago he told me that he liked me a lot and this doesn't usually happen to him. 2 weeks ago he mentioned he spilled his feelings again. Now, last weekend I he said he wanted to spend the 4th with me, so he did. He got drunk and asked if I was seeing someone else because he's not and doesn't want to. Also, said he doesn't want me to see anyone else either because he just wants us to see each other. Any who, sober he asked me to spend 5 days with him at his beach house for the 20th.
He isn't the best at communicating. Last week we started talking about past relationships and how his previous girlfriends/women he casually dated would have an issue with how detached he could get. How he would go days without saying something but he said it's not that I wasn't interested in them he's just isn't good with communicating.
So this is where I'm at now. I got home last Tuesday and he reached out Wednesday. We exchanged 2 or 3 texts and the no response. He reached out on Thursday and exchanged 2 or 3 texts and no response. I haven't heard from him since then and we're supposed to be leaving for our trip on Sunday.
I reached out said I was unsure about the weekend, in a joking way said how he is bad at communicating and that I didn't like it. He then says he doesn't think the trip is a good idea.
How tf do you all lose interest in only a week's time? When HE was the one saying all this stuff about not want to date other people and how he's not seeing anyone else. Granted he was drunk when he said this, but, HE was asking me where he stood with me because he doesn't want to play games because it would 'hurt his feelings' if I dated other people. HE said he wanted to do something for my birthday in a few weeks. HE asked to spend the 4th together. HE asked me to go on this trip. HE was the one trying to get all chummy with my friends.
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"I got home last Tuesday and he reached out Wednesday. We exchanged 2 or 3 texts and the no response. He reached out on Thursday and exchanged 2 or 3 texts and no response. I haven't heard from him since then and we're supposed to be leaving for our trip on Sunday."
Here's a magical idea... why don't YOU text HIM sometimes? Huh? Why does he have to be the one reaching out to you all the time? How do you think he feels when he's the one reaching out to you every other day and you don't do a single thing to keep the conversation going or initiate one on your own by texting him first?
"I reached out said I was unsure about the weekend, in a joking way said how he is bad at communicating and that I didn't like it. He then says he doesn't think the trip is a good idea."
That just sounds insanely passive aggressive and not at all like a "joke", he probably took it seriously and what with you not putting any effort into reaching out to him, he probably figured that YOU had lost all interest and you're now saying that you don't want to go on the trip.
You point a lot of fingers on this guy yet you didn't stop to think how HE interpreted YOUR detached and self-entitled behavior.0
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