I am 20yrs old and I work cashier at some retail store. I met thos guy when he was paying and he looked familiar to me. I told him and he said yea he had seen me but doesn't remember. So now recently he came in to the store again. He bought some more shoes and he asked for my number. Thats when i found out he is 17 years old. He asked me to go on a date and tomorrow we will see eachother to have breakfast. Im also a bit scared bc I don't want any problems with the law. I don't have bad intentions with him and I am not thinking on having sex with him. Anyways I hope everything goes well. I only dated a young boy but when I was 14 he was 13. by the way he does look mature he looks like he is 19yrs old. He also works at clubs bartending.
I just want your opinion and advice on this please. Thank you :)
Depending upon the state's law or your local laws. If the age of consent isn't a minimum of 18, then I don't think there will really be any problems even if you were to engage in any kind of sexual activity with him.
Just decide what you really want. Do you just want to hook up, or do you think this is really somebody you really want to form a relationship with? That's all that really matters. 3 years apart really is nothing. It's not like an age gap of 10 years or more, so there's really nothing to be of real concern here.
20/17 is not bad - Legally I presume you live in a 18 age of consent area - So if you are worried no sex till he is 18 - After that just have a look at your mindsets - My main qualm about age gap relationships is not the numbers but often you are at different stages of your life - Say in your case he is high school, you are working.
It depends on what state you live in or the laws in your area.. like in ohio it's legal to date someone 16 or older as long as you are no more than 4 years older than them, so here you could date a 17 year old because you're 20. 3 years isn't much of an age difference at all, at this point it's not much of one and in 10 years it'll be non existent. If you like the guy go out with him, and on the bright side you will be able to go out to bars with your girls, for 3 years without him being able to hit the bars with his friends, so no need to worry about that lol
Your a kid yourself. Its only 3 years a difference. The law was put there to protect youngsters from predators who were emotionally and intellectually superior than the young people they were after and who could manipulate them into sex. Thats hardly a factor between both of you.
The only time age really matters is when it's under age " then that's not good ! About your situation , go for it 👍 I mean I had a girl friend 13 yr older than me when I was his age , and I m the one who pursued her. I'm not suggesting that I knew what I was doing at all... just that I was a happy camper... 😋
There's no problem with that. If you like him, go for it.
Check the legality of it where you come from. It's best to make sure.
Here a 20 year old man dating a 17 year old girl wouldn't get looked at most of the time. I doubt they would the other way around either. Although as a women you might have an issue. Generally women mature faster and so dating an older guy is actually what they look for. He wouldn't say no because of age (I doubt young any 17 year old would think this way) however his maturity is something you should check out.
People our age seem to see the age difference as bigger then those older see it. To them anyone under 21 is still a child.
Nothing wrong with that
you have to be 21 to bartend, i doubt he's a bartender
Girl... he's a bartender and he's 17. He must have hit puberty really quick really fast. I haven't dated anyone that young. My S/O is younger by almost a year but because he's taller and looks more manly they assume he's older than I am 😂😔😂 I don't see a problem with it as long as he isn't on petty or childish games. I hate a guy that leads a chick on only to find out he just wants a fuck buddy (assuming you weren't looking for one). I say have lunch. The relationship is platonic right now so no harm no foul 😊 Let me know how things go lol.
Woah how can he work as a bartender legally when he's technically a minor? I mean which country allows a person under the age of 18 to sell alcohol? Anyways, I personally do think that's too much of an age gap at your age. Even if you personally don't think so the maturity gap between 20 and 17 is huge. I'd definitely wait with anything sexual until he turns 18 to at least make sure you're on the safe side legally.
Preferably I dont like younger men because I dont want to appear older than them. Also young guys have only sex on their minds, but if you like him and if he likes you then nothing is wrong with it. you're not forcing him to do anything with you. I say go for it, if you fancy him.
I told my Mom that I was okay with it and she looked at me like this O>O lol ! Pesonnaly I'm ok with few months younger. More than that and I'll start feeling weird. ANything more than 2 years younger is impossible.
i am 3 years older than my husband. i dont think there's anything wrong with it. but at 17 years old he's probably in highschool still which is probably a no go. unless ur ok with that. just try it and c how it goes, if not, then at least u tried :)
I don't date guys younger than me because they are immature most of the time and I'm just not really into dating someone younger than me. If I were you I wouldn't do it... You can get into trouble with the law and it wouldn't even be worth it.
I think dating a younger guy is fine, unless they're a lot younger. In your case you're both old enough to make mature decisions so I think it's fine. We've just got to remember he's 17 so don't to do anything too risky that's against the law, haha. :)
Its a bit weird that you're 20 and he's only 17, and getting into a relationship with him isn't The best idea on your part , you said you haven't planned on doing anything sexual with him but what if an innocent kiss leads to other things and then his parents find out and contact the police? Just wait until he's 18 if you actually want to be with him