Im heavy and curvy girl and i think because of my weight i can't get guys to talk to me or even ask me out.. I often feel that in this society today EVERY GUY around my age ONLY date or talk to skinny, small or slim girls. Is that the case? Guys and ladies let me in on whats going feel free to comment!!
Most Helpful Guy
Not at all. It all depends on the guy and his preferences.
I for example am CRAZY about bigger, curvier girls. My very first "real woman" was a bigger, curvier woman slightly older than me - I think it kind of imprinted on me because I can get totally LOST with someone a little larger and heavier than the "normal".
Someone that purely disses you or does not want to relate to you because of how you look or what your weight is is not worth your time. There -are- guys that look deeper or that just plain like your body type and they -are- out there. Don't creep into your shell. A nice, funny, intelligent woman and a warm and giving personality is actually what gets things done with the guys - a body that is nice helps, but any body can be nice! It is all in the eye of the beholder.
The girl I mentioned above for example was very much like you. She also thought nobody would ever want to be with her due to how she looked and that she was slightly overweight and curvy. She was actually very very sensitive, funny, highly intelligent and once you got to know her the warmest, gentlest most loving person I've ever had a relationship with. She just hated her body, and especially her belly! But there was no reason for her to do so, she was perfect, well proportioned, ridiculously attractive and wonderful, even if she was a bit overweight. I found out about a particular hate she had for her belly - and there was NOTHING wrong with it, so in sex-play and lovemaking I'd focus on it, tell her how beautiful it was, kiss it for her, etc. - this acceptance of a part of her she was disgusted by really helped her come out of her shell and enjoy the lovemaking and accept the attention I gave her.
My point being find a guy that is willing to look a bit deeper and get to know the person inside. Guys who just focus on the body tend to not be good long time prospects. Be outgoing, neat, clean, accepting of yourself and project this outward. An overweight woman, with a good attitude and clear acceptance of herself (by herself) can become EXTREMELY attractive just by virtue of how she carries herself and projects herself to guys.1
Most Helpful Girl
I think I most guys prefer healthy.1