I've used just about every popular dating site out there from OKcupid, to Plenty of Fish, as well as more casual sites like Tinder and Badoo. Over the years I pretty much gave up on them because I simply don't receive ANY new messages and rarely receive replies to ones that I send out. And by rare I mean like... 1/80 will get me a reply? And chances are she'll be very dull and boring and not contribute to the conversation at all. In some cases I'm even blocked, straight away. I recently got out of a relationship so I decided to just start exploring my options and decided to give dating sites another go. Needless to say, nothing has really changed. Just to put it into perspective, I can swipe right on Tinder (You do it if you like the person) on literally ALL 50 of my daily limit regardless if I actually like them or not and get maybe 1-3 matches if I'm lucky (the next day). Needless to say the 1-3 that I MIGHT get are all usually obese and/or trashy, undesirable girls. The rare matches that are actually attractive often just ignore me.
On more serious dating sites like OKCupid, I can match up with a girl with over 90% compatibility but still get ignored. I've tried many pictures, smiling, normal face, silly faces, pictures in military uniform, casual clothes, facial hair, clean shaven, etc. I've also tried many different introductions including casual "Hello how are you" to full blown polite, and creative introductions as well as messages that clearly indicate that I read their profile and things that I found attractive about them based on what I read from their profile. I'm never rude, provocative, impatient or perverted.
Doesn't matter if the girl's profile indicates she's the friendliest person ever:
"Message me guys! I promise I always reply and I'm very friendly! :3"
I still get ignored. Nobody has ever told me I was ugly, girls almost always tell me how incredibly handsome I am so it's very confusing. Is it because of my race? Am I missing something?
I just feel I'm never really given a chance and I don't know why. Thoughts? Blunt honesty.
Most Helpful Girl
Not going to look at your Tinder profile.
Here are reasons I might block a guy:
Being too negative. Sounding like an asshat. Sounding like he feels entitled. Appearing arrogant. Complaining about the people on the site. Sounding racist or prejudice toward any one group (idagf what your preference is). Posting insults toward women of any kind.
My inbox is probably full of guys like you. You sent me a one worded message. Your bio didn't have enough information in it. You're either a smoker or do recreational drugs.0
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Most Helpful Guy
A lot of guys don't get replies, and when a girl is being bombarded by messages from loads of other guys unless you're something special you get drowned out and forgotten about, she starts to think she's a lot more attractive than she is.
There's a lot more to attracting someone than your words, something like 93% of communication is body language for example (and that's very important in real life, I'd argue more important than what you say).
You can be an awesome guy in real life but that can be lost on the internet where all she sees is what you've typed and your pictures. Most often people tend to build up an image of someone they meet online that is completely different to the way they are in real life.
I think it's easier to get girls in real life. If you work on that rather than internet dating I think you'll get better results, plus it's more exciting. Sitting at a screen begging for attention from tinder sluts will kill your testosterone levels - flirting with girls in real life is proven to raise them.